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Life feels so bleak

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Scampiniknak · 10/04/2026 23:55

Probably because of the area I live in. Not much to do, run down town centre, few opportunities or nice places to visit. I get this constant feeling that life is happening in other places and I am just stuck here doing the same old shit week in week out. I try and take my dc on days out of the area but inevitably ends up costing money, time and effort that I don’t have.

I have no support with kids so it’s not like I can ever really do anything that fills up my cup. I’m either at work or I’m with them, trying to entertain them while keeping the house tidy, doing life admin and being generally knackered. Dh helps where he can but works full time. He’d have them in an evening if I wanted to pop out but I’m usually so tired by that point I just cba. He’s also not the most dynamic when it comes to planning holidays or days out so it all falls on me and ends up feeling like another chore.

I sometimes fantasise of having my own little flat in a city where I could go out if I wanted to and actually be part of things that interest me - markets, galleries, libraries, shopping, hiking. It all feels very unattainable at the moment.

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Cara707 · 10/04/2026 23:59

Could you take a day off or weekend day for yourself and travel to an art gallery in a nearby city? Or make a list of all of the things that you enjoy and prioritise finding time for them?

ThatFairy · 11/04/2026 00:05

I don't feel like life is bleak, but I also don't have anything to do really and there's nothing where I live. I guess you're feeling that more with having young kids. I've lived central in a city and honestly it wasn't that great. I ended up just spending a lot of time at cafes and the library. It was sort of cool, but I don't really miss it. I don't think we always have to be busy with our kids, just spending time with them at home is fine too. I'm also feeling very bored with life, as I'm not working currently and my 18 year old is out all the time at his partner's. I think I'll feel better when I'm working. I do think life is sort of innately boring and it's just the little moments with people we love that we're really here for.

Scampiniknak · 11/04/2026 09:59

ThatFairy · 11/04/2026 00:05

I don't feel like life is bleak, but I also don't have anything to do really and there's nothing where I live. I guess you're feeling that more with having young kids. I've lived central in a city and honestly it wasn't that great. I ended up just spending a lot of time at cafes and the library. It was sort of cool, but I don't really miss it. I don't think we always have to be busy with our kids, just spending time with them at home is fine too. I'm also feeling very bored with life, as I'm not working currently and my 18 year old is out all the time at his partner's. I think I'll feel better when I'm working. I do think life is sort of innately boring and it's just the little moments with people we love that we're really here for.

It probably is something like this. I’m very depressed with the house and area we live in but can’t move due to schools, work and family. But there’s just nothing to do, no culture, no facilities, massively backwards town. I have to take my dd to regular hospital appointments in a city and I’m always astounded at how many brilliant, free things there are to do.

Sometimes on a rainy Saturday I’ll just sit at home and think about how much life is going on in ‘real’ places while I’m trapped here.

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RhaenysRocks · 11/04/2026 10:09

It feels like one of the issues is your energy levels. Can you look at diet and exercise, supplements etc to help you feel more energised so you can carve out some time to go and do something . You have a husband and family so there's options there, you're choosing not to use them. This is changeable but you have to decide to do it.

Riapia · 11/04/2026 10:15

Life is a tragedy for those that feel, a comedy to those that think.

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