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Teen contraception

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Leftrightmiddle · 10/04/2026 23:28

My young teen 13 has been put on contraception for extreme periods. This has been working well. However, at a recent appointment this was noticed by a different nurse and she made it very clear she didn't think DD was old enough.
She was pretty judgemental and wouldn't accept the reasons.

The surgery have now said we can't renew the prescription as we have been told it isn't suitable.
I have asked for medial reasons and they just say she is too young despite a different Dr there prescribing it previously. She has had no negative side effects and they can't give a medical reason. Only that she is too young and they won't prescribe. They can refer to gynecology but they say the wait will be over a year and in this time they won't prescribe.

My DD is autistic and before we were prescribed the pill she wasn't leaving the house as she couldn't manage the sensory differences during the period or the unknown unpredictable nature of when it could happen. It was also very heavy

Does anyone have any advice? We are really unsure what we can do.

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Leftrightmiddle · 18/05/2026 22:23

Bergamotte · 18/05/2026 22:19

I think there have been cases in the past of women with severe learning disabilities being put on contraception in order to stop periods, for the convenience of carers.
Then male carers / family members realised that they could sexually abuse the woman without the risk of pregnancy bringing it to light (and did so). For safeguarding reasons the routine use of contraception in people with learning disabilities is now discouraged.

Obviously this is completely NOT the case for your daughter though! On so many levels.
I hope you can find a solution soon.

Edited

Ah yes - I can understand that
Yes completely different situation. She is able to explain what she wants and why.

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Vivienne1000 · 18/05/2026 22:26

Leftrightmiddle · 18/05/2026 22:04

What reasons would it not be in her best interest?

If the GP felt the parent was making all the decisions, not the child. I am not saying it’s not in her best interest. But trying to give reasons why it was refused.

Hankunamatata · 18/05/2026 22:42

This drives me insane. As soon as young teen gets her period they should be able to avail of medication to manage their periods.

I went through hell in my teens with pmdd and being anemic and hating bleeding due to sensory issues.

Leftrightmiddle · 10/06/2026 13:06

Update

So we booked private appointment - a long distance but with a Gynaecologist specialist for teens.

We than had a call from the surgery saying they had received a letter form the NHS gynecologist with the long wait and that they needed to see her.

We had to push for a prompt appointment as they were only offering appointments that would have fallen after our private appointment and they couldn't clarify what it was about on the phone.

Eventually they agreed to a appointment that week.
We were given the medication as the letter from gynecologist said that there was no issue with a 13 yr old having the constructive pill.
So we now have it and have managed to cancel the private appointment which will save the cost of appointment and the cost of travel

I am still so annoyed by the whole process and feel the surgery/nurse have caused so much stress and hassle for no reason. But at least we now have the medication

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BlueMum16 · 10/06/2026 18:48

So glad your DD has the prescription she needs. You will be able to refer back to the consultant letter every time the surgery query it.

Leftrightmiddle · 10/06/2026 18:49

BlueMum16 · 10/06/2026 18:48

So glad your DD has the prescription she needs. You will be able to refer back to the consultant letter every time the surgery query it.

That's a really good point thank you.

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