AIBU to miss my old job 3 year on?

[Keepit100ontheland]

Does anyone else feel like this about a job they left? I left what was a great job with great people 3 years ago. There was talk of restructure and I started to look for something new - single parent and needed the job stability so I did what seemed like the right thing at the time.

I'm 3 years into the job I left for - its going well but I miss the busyness and the team at my old workplace. The new place is fine and the people are nice but there's not much team spirit and it's often very quiet in the offices with people travelling or working remotely. It's a biggish team but there seems to be hardly anyone in at any one time. I do have flexibility with the role which is brilliant. I do look from time to time to see if my role is advertised at all but the person who took on my role has really settled in and there's little chance of them moving on.

I moved from a job I was so happy in but restructure talks and my want for personal development meant I moved I sooner than I should. I’ve since moved again and am really happy again but for a while I really missed my old job and would often wake in the night upset

Mate, I feel your pain. I left a job due to restructure talk and wanted out before the shit hit the fan and we had to fight for the work. I had been in a similar situation before, and that time, left it too late. I secured what many at my old place saw as a dream role and left the restructuring to happen. I have worked my socks off at new job, but took a long time to feel like it was a place I wanted to be. I guess I have really grived the loss of a job I loved, with people I had grown with. A job I thought I would see my working life out in. I have just had to accept that I did what I needed to and it's not like I left a place I loved on a whim, it simply does not exist anymore, what I loved about it. Sometimes I am angry about it, but where do I direct that anger? Businesses change with new management, It wasn't done to me, but it changed my life in ways I didn't want it to. Guess I just have to come to terms with it and hope at some point the new place will feel like the old one did if I give it time. Sometimes it helps to remind myself how much I wasn't sure about the old place the first year there! I miss being as knowledgeable about how things work / who everyone is / who my tribe is. Hopefully at some point, I will feel like that again. I hope you do as well. Just wanted to say, I hear you sister.

I left a job I loved, because of my awful boss, who just made my life intolerable. I got another job in the same industry (I was worried he'd badmouth me), and although I like my colleagues well enough, the role is nowhere near engaging or exciting.