AIBU to think I have caught feelings after one Tinder hookup?

[BeDandyOpalPoet]

I slept with a guy from tinder last night and I felt so much chemistry, we even spoke after the encounter about movies and such, from the chat we had from tinder he was looking for fun and when I left he messaged me to ask for my instagram. he even messaged me in the night again to tell me how good our evening together was.

anyway I said goodnight and haven’t heard from him today, I don’t think he’s looking for a relationship and my current situation is difficult if I was to have a relationship…

But the problem is I’ve never felt like this before, I don’t know why I keep thinking about him, but it hurts too think about him, like I’ve developed feelings after a single encounter, is this even possible? What should I do?

AIBU in thinking I could have caught feelings for him?

"Caught" feelings?

I take it you mean you've developed feelings.

No, not after one encounter.

What should I do? Because I really like him

ask if he wants to meet up again?! If he says no then you’re the in same position as you are now but with more clarity, if he says yes then yay?

Please Google ‘limerence’. It changed my life to learn about it.

You like the version of him that you know.

This isn’t to say he is a dick or anything like that, but you don’t actually know him at all.

Do I believe you can absolutely fancy the pants off someone and have real chemistry after one encounter? Yes I do. I did with my now DH.

But you also need to be an adult about this - take it slow and spend time together getting to know each other properly.

If I message him, I’m scared he’ll be scared away as it was only ever meant to be fun

If you message him and he agrees to meet again, you risk your feelings growing.

He isn’t looking for a relationship, and you’ve said that a relationship at the moment would be difficult for you.

Its easy to end up hurt in these situations unless you can remove yourself feelings wise and take the encounters for what they are, fun.

If he likes he you then he won’t get scared off.

And if you don’t hear from him again then enjoy it for what it was.

Well, that’s a result, too, isn’t it? And you’ll have gained some valuable self-knowledge. Tinder casual fun isn’t for you.

Well if you dont message him you are never going to know are you....

So? You won't be in a different position to the one you're currently in.

You're scared, he's scared, it doesn't sound much fun. I'd forget about him, stop feeding the feelings and get on with whatever's next. Someone being nice when you're going to have no-strings sex and 'even' chatting about films should be the absolute basics never mind the basis for catching feelings. Work on building your self-confidence so you don't have to be scared and overthinking so much.

This is how the young people speak.

This. We’ve all done it, but read up and know yourself better.

Echo other post re ‘limerence’. Happened to me a while back - took approx 8-10 months to recover 🙈

OK, so if you don't message him you'll never see him again so.. what's the difference?
You can have fun more than once. Although, in your case, I would probably just block and delete his number. Your reaction to him doesn't sound very healthy to me.