Speaking with mouth full of food

[BlueCanaryInTheAlleyByTheLightswitch]

Is it OK for an adult to talk with mouth full of food? This is during family mealtime conversation at home or in a restaurant.

YANBU - it’s grim, finish your mouthful we don’t want to see your half chewed food or hear you chewing while you speak.
YABU - it’s fine, you’re with loved ones. it’s a bit “Victorian” to suggest you shouldn’t do it (like “elbows off the table”)

Oh god I despise. my friend does it whilst chewing with her mouth open. Both her kids do it too so the noise horrific, I refuse to eat around them now. Obviously I haven’t said anything but, eugh!

I work in a school and some teachers do lunch supervision. Even in winter most would prefer to be outside in the playground than in the restaurants for that very reason!

It’s absolutely horrible watching someone eat with their mouth open. I rage at my kids if they do it. Gross.

Politely asked DM to finish her mouthful before speaking this evening. Cue hand flapping and “I’ve decided life is too short!”

I explained AGAIN that it’s not nice seeing someone’s half chewed food in their mouth.

She responded “You may avert your gaze then!”.

I explained we didn’t like listening to her speaking with a mouth full of food either. She just ignored me and carried on.

I just cannot imagine treating anyone else like this. 🤷‍♀️

I would just refuse to eat with her again @BlueCanaryInTheAlleyByTheLightswitch. You can see her but tell her you are not eating together since she lacks basic manners. I tell my 12 y old to close his mouth when he forgets. You shouldn't have to tell adult people to behave correctly.

It’s part of what I’ve realised is a pattern of treating my views/everyone else’s views with absolute contempt. Eg, I’m a vegetarian so when she served soup one meal she said she’d made a vegetarian soup for me. Which I discovered halfway through that she’d made with turkey stock and which had big lumps of turkey in.

Or proudly telling me that the tat she’s bought me for Christmas or the clothes she’s wearing come from Temu when she knows I hate Temu/have various moral objections to it.

I don’t go on about my views btw or seek to impose them on her, or criticise her for buying stuff from Temu; that’s up to her. And I serve meat to by hubby and kids, so I’m not a moral warrior.

Its very trying….

Incidentally, if I told her we’d no longer eat with her she would LOVE that because it means she could throw herself a massive pity party, and she would genuinely enjoy that more than being able to share meals with us.

Right, I’ll stop my own thread derail!

My mum does this it really irritates me, she will take a bite of her food before saying what she wants to say, I can’t stand it

Sorry but that seems like win-win then?

Let her throw a pity party! But if you're there or hear about be sure to add that it's her refusal to not behaving correctly that has made you put a stop to eating with her. Oh, and her maliciously putting meat in your soup when she bloody well knows you're a vegetarian (I am as well so I react strongly to this).

You're a better person than me. I really don't think I would put up with a person who disrespects me non-stop, so be it if it's my mother. If not nc I would def advise you to go low contact. Like very, very low contact.

I loathe this. We have two people in our circle who do this but hold their hand in front of their mouth when they’re doing it. It doesn’t make it any better! Please just finish your mouthful before you tell us your story - honestly, we can wait 🙄

You would think! But it leaves me feeling like I’m enabling the sodding pity party, which is even more unbearable.

Am fairly low contact at the moment.