Is anyone being unreasonable here?

[ineousa]

My friend is getting married next Christmas (2027) and is really keen to have a winter sun hen do before the wedding, so we have been invited to Tenerife. There is no pressure to go if anyone doesn’t want to go. The MoH has added all the hens who want to go into a group, and there are about 20 of us. The problem is that the flights have not yet been released. The MoH is keen to book accommodation now and then get flights once they’re released. However, others are not keen to do this in case we can’t get flights and lose money for accommodation. The MoH is worried that if we don’t book accommodation we’ll struggle to get somewhere for 20 people nearer the time. MoH has pointed out that there are daily cheap flights from our nearest airport to Tenerife daily and flights almost certainly won’t be a problem.

It is really upsetting the hen that there is no resolution. She would like to book it sooner rather than later and book the flights once they’re released, as that is what her husband to be has done for his stag and his friends have been happy to do so.

Which is more sensible?

YANBU - book accommodation now and flights later - there are daily cheap flights which will be releases

YABU - wait and book everything together but risk losing the accommodation

Too far in advance. The bride needs to book something that can be cancelled rather than getting stuck on one inflexible option.

So she can be paid back later. If the bride is both insistent on an accommodation option without a free cancellation option and wants to book it before flights can even be booked then it's on her to cover the risk. Completely unreasonable to expect the guests to do so.

There’s no way I’d be agreeing to go, book and pay for accommodation at this stage. Anything could happen. Most companies won’t even be advertising that far ahead anyway! It’s crazy to book this far ahead

I’m neither the bride nor the organiser so that’s not for me to worry about.

This. The whole thing reeks of conflict and is already taking the fun out of it.

Everyone should just calm the hell down. Foreign holiday hen dos are a massive piss-take in the first place, now the bride is making it even more stressy.

Then she's being ridiculous. There's something called compromise. I would book something cancellable and if the desired accommodation is available once flights are bookable and everyone's happy with the cost then switch to the other accommodation.

I'd wait and book them together, if at all. I understand covering a bride's drinks etc, but why on earth are you paying for her to go on holiday?! Bizarre.