AIBU long wait for a lift

[TheBusyMoose]

AIBU to be annoyed? My husband dropped me off at hospital and then took kids home again assuming I could catch an uber. Wait for uber was 2 hours so I called him and he said he would come back. It's a 35 min drive. I called him 40 mins after originally speaking to him and he was only 10 mins from home he had been finishing his computer game. AIBU to be pissed off that I wasn't prioritised, there was no urgency and he didn't even update me so I'm here waiting like a melon?

And we've got home and he is straight back on the computer

He sounds horrible OP. Once you’ve recovered I would look at LTB.

Poll is pretty split in fairness to him

Why didn’t he just wait for you? He could have took the kids to the cafe inside. I don’t understand why he’d leave you there stranded without checking first if Ubers were even available.

I don’t think you are being selfish at all. You should have been picked up pretty promptly.

I do think if people haven’t been through lots of health stuff, they don’t always realise how draining it is. (Obviously he may have been, of course). Hope you get better soon and get lots of tlc.

“he had been finishing his computer game”
I could never be with a man who would act like this. Gross, immature.

OP he is useless and abusive.

Restricting your painkillers?
Hurting you where you have surgery?
100% deliberate.

Contact Women's aid, you are very vulnerable.
Tell family and friends you need help and protecting.

His behaviour is abusive and not normal.

He’s useless, thoughtless, clueless and then denies he’s done anything wrong!

I’d be telling him sharpish he needs to start being a proper Dad and supporting you through this period of ill health

Sorry u r going through this difficult time pretty much alone. Do the kids help? Friends & family?

I am dismayed that your husband would view this as a favour. I don't mean to sound twee, but surely it's his duty as your husband?

I would have got myself a coffee and my book and enjoyed the peace and quiet while waiting for the uber.

BUT.

The bigger issue is that your husband sounds like a waste of space. Spending his time on gaming and not being able to cope with his own kids or look after his wife with any compassion? What does he actually contribute to the relationship apart from his sperm?

To add to my previous post - my ex treated me similarly when I was in hospital - I was an afterthought. I was young and naive, I tried not to let it bother me, I thought I was being over-sensitive and unreasonable. Well no, it should have damn well bothered me! It showed what he thought of me, it showed how low I was on his list of priorities! I ended up wasting years on someone who clearly didn’t prioritise me. The signs were clearly there, HE was giving me the signs. I was too naive to listen to them.
I got there in the end, but only after many wasted years.

Sounds like you’ve got yourself a shit unsupportive partner and a shit lazy father for your children.

Taking you to hospital isn’t a favour it’s what you do for your partner and you should want to do it.

And he’s totally unsupportive of you when you are clearly in need of a bit of TLC.
There is literally no point to him at all.

Agree with everything this poster has said. Contact Women’s Aid to see how they can help you.

How long did you wait for him, around an hour? Surely that’s better than waiting 2 hours for an Uber? I’d give him some slack considering he’s spent around 2hrs and 20mins of his day driving around for you