To want my birthday presents gift wrapped?

[StuntNun]

It’s my birthday tomorrow, a milestone one, and there are currently at least thirteen cardboard boxes, mostly from Amazon, stashed around the house. My mum is trying to persuade my DH that he shouldn’t gift wrap the presents but just let me open the cardboard boxes myself instead since “it will still be a surprise.”

So, AIBU to prefer my birthday presents wrapped up rather than open a stack of cardboard boxes on my big day?

It’s easier to just do it whilst I do my mums. I appreciate DH doesn’t have as much time as me (I can often bung a card and gift voucher in with the food shop, which he doesn’t do) but honestly, I wouldn’t hear the end of it from MIL if he didn’t get her something.
Shortly after our wedding, she gave me a list of names and dates with “birthday/anniversary/new baby” etc on it. I asked what she’s given me that for and she told me it was “DH side of the family’s special events list so I could add it to my diary to make sure he didn’t miss anyone out” I handed it to DH straight away and she got super shirty with me and told me it was “the woman’s job to deal with all that once we were married” I laughed and just ignored it, DH got the message and either does or doesn’t do his family birthday cards etc, I don’t know.
However, I realised when I was shopping for my mum that he hadn’t gotten her a card/gift for Mother’s Day so it was no problem
to shove it in with the food shop.

Such a horribly indulged man, hence he doesn’t bother doing anything for you!

He’s not so busy he can’t get you a card and present for Mother’s Day? Moonpig and Amazon?

This . It’s also just lazy not to present gifts nicely .

I don’t like wrapping paper - creating waste for a few seconds of "looking pretty". Kind of vanity waste.

I agree that getting the shipping box isn't really exciting.

We use a bunch of old scarfs instead of wrapping paper.

That sounds beautiful.

if you have to force someone to make an effort then what’s the point!?

I would never acknowledge his birthday, Fathers Day or Christmas until he grew up and appreciated you. I’d also stop doing his laundry and cooking for him. Some men need to be shown and not told!

Thank you. I read about the awful men on here (and was previously married to one) so I know how amazing he is. We have just comeback from dinner and he’s told me he’s happy that I’m happy and the kids are happy. He’s bloody lush x

HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP!

Umm can you lone him out for a few days if I promise to take good care of him ?
It's my birthday in a few weeks and u don't have a DH/P

Eh? What sort of a home do you come from. Presents always get wrapped. It's normal in most UK households (saying most because there's always someone).

Opening an Amazon box doesn't fill anyone with pleasure.

Happy birthday @StuntNun pingu has wrapped a present for you.

Thank you for the birthday wishes @WormHoleInSpace and happy birthday back to @ToffeePennie

I have had a lovely birthday so far with hand-drawn cards from my children and rather a lot of gin and chocolate to see me into my next decade.

Does your dm stick her nose in other areas of your life?

If I could clone him I would. But loan him out? I can’t take the risk 😉

Of course they need to be wrapped - how else can you check the items are ok, not damaged, the correct one etc - again total lack of effort expected from men by women on this thread

Snort.

Wow, some really bizarre comments on here, I've never even considered giving gifts to people in the unopened Amazon box's, that are usually grubby,tatty, squashed. Put a little effort in or just don't bother.
What's wrong with some people, just wrap your gifts up and recycle the Amazon packaging.

So unless they’re wrapped you would rather no present at all? You’d rather the DH didn’t bother?

Opening Amazon boxes gives me the rage. Of course your presents should be gift wrapped. Why is your mum interfering anyway?

Happy Birthday OP. I hope you have a lovely day and get to unwrap pretty presents

(some very low expectations on this thread)

YANBU, but there's a lot of competitive martyrdom and low-expectations on MN about this kind of thing. If you expect more than a bunch of flowers from the petrol station you're being childish and wanting 'a fuss'. Surely nobody over the age of 12 expects an actual wrapped present? etc.

Her birthday was yesterday….

Yes, wrap it up, show some thought, do you gift people things like that, without checking the contents? Why are some people acting like wrapping a gift is wrong?

Wrapping THIRTEEN gifts unnecessarily is wrong, yes.