IABU but I do not like outside

[idonotlikebeingoutside]

I do not like being outside.

It has taken me a while to admit this to myself as it feels like a moral failing in many ways.

I love looking at the outside. At beautiful views, or when I wake up in the morning and take in the birds singing and the fields and the blossom. It’s beautiful. But actually in it? When it’s either too chilly or hot, and you don’t get to sit down, and it’s, you know, a bit too outsidey. Oh and bugs, and itchy grass.

I would far rather a day indoors contained.

Unfortunately I have young children. I have to hide the fact I hate garden play and parks and walks, for their benefit. But given the choice give me a rainy day ‘oh what a shame!’ Soft play it is!

Im the same. Im so annoyed its suddenly blazing hot a few days into spring 😥 hate it I do!!!

I'm outsidey, I'm not outdoorsy. I like paths, walking around a lake with somewhere I can get a coffee etc. unfortunately my husband and kids are extremely outdoorsy people and I have to suffer the 10 mile hikes, the endless layers of fleece and waterproofs, sitting where there is endless rabbit droppings, all the wind and the mud, don't get me started on the mud. I'm fitter for it and I go without complaint but my god do I just want to stay at home and lounge.

I like outside in moderate doses, but it’s not a moral failure not to prefer it! Humans built inside for a reason! Then we invented sofas, lighting, climate control and running water - all superb!

I'm with you 100%
I'm always cold outdoors, unless it's in the high 20's, but when it is hot, I then get terrible hay-fever 😫

Places where you have a museum and kids stuff and outside would probably suit you best. Horniman museum in south London is inside but has lovely gardens, nice cafe, a conservatory where you can have tea and they’re adding a new cafe and redoing the gardens. Young and older kids love it.

Most sane people find them hell on earth! I don’t even have kids but have taken nephews to them. Never again 🤣

Jen Bristow comedian has insta videos talking about her kids in playgrounds. She wonders why there’s no shed there selling neat gin! Love a playground with a cafe though. Even better if it serves booze. No I’m not an alkie!

I am the same, even as a child I preferred to be inside doing my crafts and watching my favourite film rather than play out in parks and in the garden, I always hated when it was suggested I play in the garden my dad bought a swing set and a slide for it but it was only my sister who used them as she was always wanting to be outside and would stay out for hours but with me I just didn't enjoy it at all and liked my own company which hasn't changed as I've got older

I love the outdoors and I get cabin fever from being inside too long. Hiking, climbing, swimming, bike rides all fab. I even quite like playgrounds. But I do have a big issue with people who insist on doing indoorsy things outdoors. Like a few others have said, there's nothing worse than an outdoor meal, it's so much faff, the food goes cold, wind blows everything over on the table, wasps get in your food. See also going to 'sit outside' because it's 'so nice' but you need a blanket and 20 layers of clothing and/or sunglasses/parasols/sun cream etc etc. I have a friend who bought a projector and had a weird fad of wanting to watch tv outside - just no!

I always enjoyed taking my kids to soft play as well as outside, but we did have a couple of sickness episodes after soft play, they are not always the cleanest. Oh the joy when we arrived at one one time and it had just had its annual (annual!!) deep clean/disinfect - nothing was sticky!
I get not liking outside, but find it strange to still like soft play!
However you do you as long as you don’t keep your kids inside as well - they need fresh air, light and exercise!! Good luck!! And believe me it doesn’t last long - get them a screen aged 8 and you’ll never have to bother with taking them outside or finding an activity for them again (being facetious here obvs but it is also actually true.) Come age 10 or 11 they lose all interest in you so while I know everyone says it, make the most of these times as they are over really fast…

I’m glad someone else can relate. I kind of like the outside in theory and I love views, nature etc. But I’m hugely arachnophobic and it just tortures me when I’m out sitting in a garden. And I also have such poor temperature regulation due to my ill health that I get too hot or too cold so quickly. I’m disabled and can’t enjoy nature walks. I have anxiety. Then I’ve got hayfever on top!

That said, I also hate just sitting around the house so I’m overall a bit faulty 😬

I don't understand this at all! Being outside in nature, no matter the weather, always lifts my spirits and makes me feel more normal/grounded/happy. If I'm stuck inside too long I almost feel claustrophobic.

YANBU.

People wouldn’t spend £££ on just the right curtains if outside was anything special.

Interior design is a massive industry for a good reason.

No you aren't unreasonable for having a preference, especially because you recognise that it's important for your childrens physical and mental health, so I assume you probably won't ever share your preference with them, or at least not until they are adults.
One of my daughters is the same. Unfortunately she is only 13, but she has always been like it, she just genuinely doesn't like it much outside, she can appreciate that it's beautiful, but like you described finds the sensory elements quite intolerable.
I have to encourage her to take walks and get that outdoor time.
But we like what we like.

I have to say I'm the same.
I wish I wasn't.

I hate the wind. It makes my eyes water and my hair goes everyplace.

I run hot and have a higher body temperature than average.
Therefore, insects won't leave me alone.

I have to stay out of the sun. I can't get sunburnt again because I got sunburnt loads when I was young.

I get hot and sweaty very quickly. Sitting out under the sun makes it much worse.

I love the idea of being outside but I'm mostly inside.
I find it easier to be outside in the winter than summer.

@idonotlikebeingoutside

100% with you on this. I love sitting indoors looking out. Outside is great in principle but, once there, becomes too hot/cold, wet/dry, windy/uncomfortable. In the summer it inevitably involves a warm picnic or smelly barbecue, and me becoming a walking buffet for every single insect within a 10 mile radius!

It don't mind walking now and then, preferably by the sea.

Are you the sort of person who always has to do something? Have a plan to action?!

If so, then just being outside probably doesn't suit you. But then you probably aren't ever just being indoors either!

For me just being outdoors is an exercise in switching off from the modern need to always be doing something. I find it harder indoors as all the jobs are staring me in the face.

So do you hate sitting in the sunshine in beer garden having a drink with friends?
sunbathing by a pool/ at the beach?
laying on the grass or a sun lounger with a good book?
sledding/skiing?
picnics?

This, i wont eat outside by choice. On occasion, to be sociable i do, but only in true heat, like in my own garden in Spain

Exactly the same. Lots of garden play and walks at the moment and I absolutely hate it but have to hide it for them. If I didn’t have kids, I’d return to my former life where I barely went outside. Even as a child, I hated outdoor play.

She’s literally said she puts her own feelings asides and plans activities outdoors for her kids.

We’re all allowed preferences and I’d actually counter your point that indoor activities take far more work in my experience then letting your kids loose in the garden or going on a walk.

I think this is a really unhealthy way to live OP.

Just out of interest, are you overweight?

I am the opposite, I hate sitting indoors on a sunny day. My kids (teens) would happily stay indoors all the time but I make them gobiut for their own good!

Wow the amount of posters who just can’t compute that some of us don’t enjoy being outside…

You are welcome to counter as much as you wish. Op said she prefers indoor soft plays because she can sit and scroll through her phone.