AIBU to worry about sharing time with my toddler after separating?

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For those of you who have left your DH's/boyfriends, how do you feel about sharing the time you get with your toddler?

I've managed to have a baby with a cocklodger and I can’t take it anymore. DS is 21 months. Will he adapt? Will I?

I trust DP to actually be a responsible dad, I have no safety/care concerns. There is no violence or negligence involved. I will still be doing 100% of everything and paying for everything but I have no safety/caring worries while DS would be with his dad.

Mine disappeared more or less until he got a woman to take on the work. He now does 30 percent. I wouldn't worry its highly likely he's going to want 50/50 is it ?

My ex and I split when DD was a toddler also. It was difficult to begin with especially around Birthdays and Christmas. I remember the first year or so feeling ok some days she was at her dads and other times spending the night crying infront of the TV feeling lost. I was in the same position where I did everything and bought everything. He demanded 50/50 which I was so worried and sad about but SO many people told me give it time it won’t last and they were right. My DD goes every other weekend now and it works well. I have time to see my friends and go to the gym which I never had before and if anything it improved her relationship with dad because they have 1 on 1 time now which was never a thing when we were together.

Be kind to yourself and trust you are doing the right thing for yourself and your son 2 happy homes are better than 1 unhappy home. It does get better and easier with time.

@Icecream101 thank you, I'm more worried about my toddler. How do they take the change in routine? DS hates even sleeping in a different cot on holiday for example. Or when we go to my parents (who he knows well, they even have a nursery set up) it takes him a day or so to adjust. I know with small kids they reccomend contact every 2 or 3 days but that's such a whirlwind?