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to feel that this eviction feels unfair.

53 replies

Humblepieis · 06/04/2026 18:30

Please go easy. I'm in a dark place.

I am getting evicted from my property. The main reason being around I think my children's noise. The house has absolutely no sound proofing . I can hear my neighbour pee. yup. so really a family with siblings that argue isn't suitable. Im not excusing the noise. But giving context. In a normal family home, noise like this would be ok. I'm sandwiched between neighbours in a flat where you can gear every footstep. you can hear conversations. Unfortunately I have a separated DH who is an alcoholic and uses to be allowed in the house but he created too much noise. so he has not being allowed inside in a while. my poor children are traumatised by dad. This has resulted in them being angry and swearing . ( though my separated DH and myself don't swear and I do not shout ) I hate it trust me and cry all the time. I do all I can to get my 10 year old to stop. they are under cahms. They havebehavioural issues. and possible mental health issues. on top of this I acquired a disability 3 years ago and are basically the sole patent with no help . family out of country. It's been hard to manage with an alcoholic father, day regulated children and a disability which has been very debilitating. we are all moving home later this year but I just wondered if I can put up a defence against eviction. they are calling it anti social behaviour. Honestly we are a good,, loving , professional family that's just in a bad situation. Why we are mofingvhomevas I'll have family support and everyone will be happy. I'm literally drowning in stress and an inability to cope. I just want to stay in the house until we have to move.

Any solicitors that know any defence around a child with mental health issues /trauma explaining tye behaviour rather than labelling it as anti social?

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YerMotherWasAHamster · 06/04/2026 18:35

You should ask for social services help and support. A social worker might be able to help you. I know they have huge caseloads but they may be able to access support or give advice or negotiate on your behalf.

LVhandbagsatdawn · 06/04/2026 18:36

You really need to take real life legal advice OP. I'd ring around some solicitors first thing tomorrow morning when they open. Good luck

SpiceGirlsNeedAComeBack · 06/04/2026 18:37

Did they have one of those noise measuring machines?

PinkPhonyClub · 06/04/2026 18:39

Definitely look for professional advice.

Is this a s21 private landlord eviction? If so the whys driving the decision don’t really matter.

KilkennyCats · 06/04/2026 18:39

That sort of behaviour wouldn’t be acceptable in any other type of housing either, op.
I’m not sure what styling yourself as a “good, loving, professional family” does in mitigation, really 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bombombomtralala · 06/04/2026 18:44

‘mental health issues /trauma explaining tye behaviour’ doesn’t stop you from being evicted and can quite rightly be described as antisocial behaviour if it is antisocial.

ThreeTescoBags · 06/04/2026 18:45

I don't know anything about evictions but just want to acknowledge what a hard time you are going through. It sounds terribly difficult. You will come out the other side, better times are ahead x

properidiot · 06/04/2026 19:04

I'm afraid I don't know the processes for eviction appeals OP but I would have thought that the eviction would kick start or at least hurry along some extra support for you through SS and other agencies. Do you have somewhere else to go to - are the council helping you?

Stillfatstillmiserable · 06/04/2026 19:05

Whilst I have sympathy for you I also know what it’s like to be on the other end of the problem - in the past I’ve had noisy neighbours that have basically made life a living hell. It’s easy to say it’s just a bit of noise but it’s amazing how it intrudes on you and the stress it causes

JulietteHasAGun · 06/04/2026 19:07

Is it a private landlord, housing association, co7ncil?

JehovasFitness · 06/04/2026 19:08

Under which legislative provision are you being evicted? It should say on your eviction notice.

Mogbiscuit · 06/04/2026 19:10

OP, you can get good advice for free from Citizens Advice. Please phone them or contact them online for help.

Humblepieis · 06/04/2026 19:15

I describe myself as this as until this, I got along very well with the neighbours. What I'm trying to say is that I'm not some person that is cat all comfortable with this behaviour from my children . i work in mental health with children myself so I'm trying to do all I can to help them but unfortunately I can't control their father's behaviour which even though outside this house, it has an impact on them. I'm struggling. I don't know what more to do than I'm doing? I'm supporting my children and getting one mental health support. I tell them it's not ok to swear etc. I can't cope.
what I meant was in a normal house, neighbours wouldn't hear this noise not that it is right cause of course I hate it but it would be a bother.
I am seeking professional guidance .
There is no noise machine.
It's not like it's for hours on end. It could be a couple of minutes and then I shut it down
Irony is I've reported one neighbour to the police for ASB 14times as gas another neighbour. fir smoking weed, staying at my kids, setting a hose on me, yelling at my kids etc. I can't wait to leave but I'm stuck at moment.

Does anyone know about getting extra time with a disability . it's physical very difficult for me to move. I can't do it fast .

I have no idea how I ended up in such a horrible situation. we were such a happy little family until my DH became an alcoholic

OP posts:
Humblepieis · 06/04/2026 19:16

section 8. though I haven't got it yet. but LL said they are sending

OP posts:
Humblepieis · 06/04/2026 19:17

thank you Three Tesco bags . I really appreciate. iim on my knees with it all. I can't wait to be with my family.

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Humblepieis · 06/04/2026 19:18

Private LL.

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Notarealblonde · 06/04/2026 19:18

Maybe you arent aware how loud your household is actually being? I have lost sleep because of noise nuisance. It is anti social

Onmytod24 · 06/04/2026 19:22

You need to contact social services and the school. Explain the situation and ask her advice and be seen to be taken the advice. you haven’t been served the eviction yet you’ve got months and months before it actually happens so you’ve got time to try and sort some things out.

LakieLady · 06/04/2026 19:26

JulietteHasAGun · 06/04/2026 19:07

Is it a private landlord, housing association, co7ncil?

I was going to ask exactly the same question.

You need to speak to a specialist housing adviser, OP. Shelter or CAB will be able to point you in the right direction. If you're not a council tenant, the council may be able to refer you for homelessness prevention support.

If you can show that you'll be moving in a few months anyway, ie have found a property that you will move into, you may be able to get the eviction suspended until after that date. There may be a disability defence if the noise nuisance is due to your DS's MH problems.

TripleASays · 06/04/2026 19:46

A section 8 eviction relates to rent arrears. Are you currently in arrears with your landlord?

SpiceGirlsNeedAComeBack · 06/04/2026 19:48

TripleASays · 06/04/2026 19:46

A section 8 eviction relates to rent arrears. Are you currently in arrears with your landlord?

No it covers anti social behaviour too.

Fends · 06/04/2026 19:54

TripleASays · 06/04/2026 19:46

A section 8 eviction relates to rent arrears. Are you currently in arrears with your landlord?

That’s one ground. Anti social behaviour is another

Blushingm · 06/04/2026 20:02

What you consider normal family noise, other people obviously consider antisocial behaviour.

It can’t just be a few times either, there must have been several complaints.

Surely you must be able to see it from your neighbours point of view - they must be at the end of their tether

TripleASays · 06/04/2026 20:04

SpiceGirlsNeedAComeBack · 06/04/2026 19:48

No it covers anti social behaviour too.

Apologies. I thought it was solely for arrears.