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AIBU to be considering moving because of neighbour noise?

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TheQuietLurker · 05/04/2026 21:14

We’ve been in our house about 15 months (new-ish build) and I still feel quite on edge about noise from next door. I’ll be honest and say we probably didn’t do enough due diligence before buying, so I do feel like some of this is on us.

The walls seem quite thin, so we hear music a couple of times a week, sometimes going on past 11pm. They’re a young couple and also sit in their car outside with loud music on (right outside my daughter’s bedroom). In the summer they have music blasting from their kitchen into the garden so loudly that we wouldn’t even be able to have our own on.

I have asked once (very politely) if they could turn it down slightly, on a summer evening when my daughter was trying to sleep. They did at first but turned it back up not long after, and I get the impression they’re not particularly approachable.
It’s got to the point where I don’t really enjoy being in the garden and feel a bit anxious about having friends or family round. They also have a dog that barks quite a lot, and again with the thin walls it feels quite intrusive even when we’re just sitting in the living room watching TV.

I do appreciate that some level of noise is normal and they’re not necessarily doing anything “wrong” (e.g. playing music in the afternoon), so I’m not sure if I’m just being over-sensitive, especially as I have a young child.

We’re on a 5-year fixed mortgage, but I’ve even found myself wondering about porting and moving just to get away from the constant feeling of being on edge in my own home.

AIBU to think this is enough to consider moving, or do I need to get a bit of perspective and accept this is just part of having neighbours?

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ChaliceinWonderland · 05/04/2026 21:17

I wouldn't stand

For this. Cany you afford a detached house?

Allisnotlost1 · 05/04/2026 21:18

If you’re unhappy it’s completely reasonable to consider moving. Some people get used to neighbour noise and others don’t, if you’re in the latter category then you’ll never be able to settle and enjoy your home. I have pretty noisy neighbours, they’re pretty thoughtless to be honest but I just take the view that I won’t worry if my dog barks when she hears them clomping up the stairs or slamming the front door multiple times each evening, and I don’t worry about hoovering late at night if that’s what suits my schedule. But you might be different, and that’s ok.

Scousefab1 · 05/04/2026 21:22

You can do the petty thing and wake them up at six in the morning and get your daughter to scream her head off. But I do agree you need to move they sound like inconsiderate idiots. You can port your mortgage I have done this before best speaking to a mortgage advisor. Don’t think you can put a price on your peace and quiet and would maybe look at a detached if you can afford it.

TheQuietLurker · 05/04/2026 22:02

ChaliceinWonderland · 05/04/2026 21:17

I wouldn't stand

For this. Cany you afford a detached house?

Only if we move further away from the area. So we would have to weigh up whether it’s worth moving away from family / potentially finding new jobs for a detached house.

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TheQuietLurker · 05/04/2026 22:09

Allisnotlost1 · 05/04/2026 21:18

If you’re unhappy it’s completely reasonable to consider moving. Some people get used to neighbour noise and others don’t, if you’re in the latter category then you’ll never be able to settle and enjoy your home. I have pretty noisy neighbours, they’re pretty thoughtless to be honest but I just take the view that I won’t worry if my dog barks when she hears them clomping up the stairs or slamming the front door multiple times each evening, and I don’t worry about hoovering late at night if that’s what suits my schedule. But you might be different, and that’s ok.

Well there is that, I don’t need to feel guilty if I need to make any noise. But I do still do because I’m a considerate person 🙈 Oh we get the constant door slamming too. Inconsiderate people just really anger me.

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TheQuietLurker · 05/04/2026 22:11

Scousefab1 · 05/04/2026 21:22

You can do the petty thing and wake them up at six in the morning and get your daughter to scream her head off. But I do agree you need to move they sound like inconsiderate idiots. You can port your mortgage I have done this before best speaking to a mortgage advisor. Don’t think you can put a price on your peace and quiet and would maybe look at a detached if you can afford it.

I agree, you can’t put a price on your peace and quiet. Ah thank you - we will ask our mortgage advisor about porting. It’s just so expensive to move again, all because of inconsiderate idiots.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 05/04/2026 22:14

I would write them a kindly but firmly worded letter outlining the incidents and the impact it has on you and ask again for them to keep music at a low volume in general . If I was them I’d have no clue it was bothering you!

Ladyeggo · 06/04/2026 06:50

In my experience it won’t change. Cut your losses. I left a town I loved where I was only ever going to be in a terrace (noise on both sides) for peace and quiet. I live in a Victorian semi now, semi rural with thick walls and lovely neighbours and it has made such a difference. The town is only a 20 min drive if I want to see friends etc.

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