AIBU to feel embarrassed by DH's holiday Instagram story?

[Lelie23]

I am back from a holiday with DH, our first child free one since DD was born two years ago. Our last day yesterday was a really sunny day and the drinks were flowing.

I haven’t been on my phone much at all, but when I checked it after returning to the room yesterday early evening one of my friends had messaged to say along the lines of ‘his (DH’s) story was a bit risqué wasn’t it’ with a laughing emoji.

So I then looked, and it was a photo he’d taken of me (knowingly) and he captioned it ‘Mrs X looking stunning. Could drop knickers right now 😍’

I told him to take it down which he did, said he got carried away after a few drinks and it was meant as a compliment.

I feel really embarrassed now, he has lots of my friends/family who I expect will have seen it. He has apologised again today and said he wasn’t thinking.

Sorry if I’ve entirely missed the point but you’ve managed a child free holiday when your child is only 2 and your husband really fancies you, he did a slightly tipsy silly post which he took down immediately and apologised for when you didn’t like it. I’d honestly just let it go and enjoy your good luck.

A bit crass but i wouldn't make a big deal about it.

He didn’t take down immediately- it was up for several hours.

Take the compliment and laugh it off to friends and family.

As far as embarrassing things go, this is one of the better ones to have.

As in, he took it down immediately when you asked him to.

Not a big deal.

Yes he's gone a bit too far but he's apologized and deleted it. Hopefully he won't do anything like that again. I'm not sure what you want from this thread as he has already agreed with you.

Well done for being hot.

It’s a bit embarrassing but not terrible.

This

Very immature and degrading. Does he just see you as a sex object? It doesn't even make sense anyway because sometimes you can just push them to the side.

Not a compliment and disrespectful. The first part on its own would’ve been a compliment. I’d be really taken aback if a guy I know with a wife posted something like this.

No idea why people are saying to get over it. It’s grim as fuck. Does he have form for this type of thing?

Yuck what a crass comment

I wouldn’t like it but it isn’t LinkedIn so provided only friends and family saw, it isn’t the end of the world.

I agree. Degrading someone is not a compliment.

I’d have got the ick right then and there!

A man thinking his wife is sexually attractive? What a creep. How embarrassing. Now all your family and friends will know you have sex .

It's a bit crass and a bit cringe, but moreso on him than you tbh. It's not like he's told everyone you're gagging for it or all over him or anything, he's told his friends and family he's hot for you, essentially. Which isn't something I would choose to do, but you're married, with a child, it's not like they don't know you have sex, presumably.

Would I have posted it? No. Would I be bothered if a partner had? Probably not. But the fact you are is what matters, and he has apologised and taken it down when you asked. I couldn't get too het up about it tbh. But MN is a bit weird about claiming anyone who doesn't pretend they only have sex for procreation purposes and got no enjoyment from it, is a pervert, so I'm not sure your replies are going to be hugely balanced, OP.

What was the photo? Assuming it wasn't you in just your knickers?

He's apologised, nothing more he can do, was clearly in a loving drunken moment and wanted to show you off. Don't give him too much of a hard time, he can't take it back and I'm sure he will learn from this.

Note - this is assuming you wasn't naked ofc.

It's a bit cringe but I think if you'd had a bit to drink he got carried away.

No harm done I don't think. I have a couple of friends who post like this about each other sometimes. Yes it's a bit crude but that's just their humour.

First post nailed it.

Yes it was a bit cringe but your famy know you have sex with him. They know you're in a child free holiday (presumably one of them is babysitting) so they know you're likely spending a lot of it having sex. Thry aren't going to be horrified your horny husband fancies you.

Aybu to be embarrassed? No.
Aybu to ask him to take it down? No.
Aybu to expect us to all pile on and tell you what a disrespectful shot he is and that you should ltb etc? Yes.

I wouldn't like this at all and I would feel embarrassed. It's not exactly classy.

There are far worse things to be worried about. Your husband fancies you and wants to tell the world on social media. Might not be to your taste but this is the least worst thing I’ve read on here today. Let it go.

It might be embarrassing for him but not for you. It's not even so gross that you have to be embarrassed you're married to him. Any of your family or friends who have seen it will either laugh or never mention it.

This is the perfect situation for the use of Mumsnet's favourite word.

Grim.

Nah that’s not ok.

Its degrading, especially as he knows you’ve got family members on there.

But what’s done is done and he took it down once you asked, so I’d let it go now.