AIBU Divorce

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Hi all,
I am divoring my husband of 13 years after he's cheated and slept with prostitues- and denied it after being caught, his dringking is getting out of hand and he has physically hit my hand in front of the kids (enough for my kids to tell jim to leave the house for the day). I sent the no fault divorce and it was accepted by the courts in december. We live with my two teens (boy and girl) and his tenn son (my step-son). DH is still acting like theres no divorce- he is ignoring all courts letters.

I know the divorce will be granted anyway through no fault- we own 3 properties and I know he will make it very hard for me and I know he will openly start seeing women to hurt me. I would like to have a conversation with him end of this month to see if we can do things amicabily.
AIBU to be scared and worried about the conversation and the rest of the financial split during the divorce in general as I know he will gaslight🙁

No need to speak to him, just your solicitor

It's perfectly natural to feel apprehensive and anxious about what's ahead. I wouldn't bank on him being amicable and I would stick to communicating through your solicitor as much as possible. Can you lean on family and friends for a bit of support to get you through this tough time? My friend divorced a few years ago and our regular pub lunches and coffee/catch ups were a good opportunity for her to offload, have a good bitch about her ex and shed a few tears. She got through it and is so much happier now. Gather all your strength and take it one day at a time, try not to think too far ahead and catastrophise in your mind about what he might do. Whatever he tries, you can and will deal with it. Keep your eyes on the future when you will have a peaceful and calm home. If he physically intimidates you or ever lays a hand on you again, call the police.

Thank you. Not always easy having a conversation with a narcissist ):

11% voted YANBU. What the fuck?

11% did not vote YANBU and why are you bumping a days old thread when the OP didn't bother to return just to voice your misplaced outrage?

I mistyped. And why are you bothering to respond then?