Aibu to message

[Zombieof3]

Hi all,

On Thursday I went out to a work event, I'm not a drinker usually but I got absolutely blackbout drunk. I remember that I upset a manager but idk why or what I said. I can't remember anything but I can guarantee if I was black out drunk I was inappropriate. I'm absolutely mortified, and it really reminded me as to why I don't consume alcohol

Should I give them a message on Facebook to apologise, or should I leave it until work. I'm absolutely mortified, I can't believe I got to that state. I'm still really unwell now, I completely overdid it, and I know I majorly messed up.

Aibu to message them or should I leave it. Feel like a terrible person right now and it's my own fault. Any advice? I'm already full of self guilt and loathing, I'm very aware of how stupid I am for acting like a teenager.

I think sending a message on their social media sounds even more unprofessional.

I'd leave it until I saw them.

Do you have any work friends who were there that you could contact and ask what you did? I’d really want to know that before I considered contacting the manager!

Good luck.

I would also try and find out what was said before doing anything.

I would apologise face to face. And never ever drink on a works do again if you can’t control yourself to just have a couple.

Is there anyone at work who you trust that you can ask what happened?

Do nothing, say nothing. If anyone brings it up, say you can’t remember anything but you won’t be drinking that much again.

I'll bet that the 'beer fear' is making you believe that it's worse than it really is.

Completely agree with this. Find them the next time you're at work and apologise in person IF you did anything inappropriate.

It’s hanxiety. Do not message anyone.

Is there anyone you trust that you can ask how badly you may have behaved (or not)

Otherwise you just stroll in on Monday and style it out.

Is this anxiety normal following a black out. I guess the worst thing that can happen is I lose my job 🙃

If you were black out drunk, then presunably omeone had to take you home or at least get you into a taxi ,can you ask that person what you did at the event so at least you are armed with information ? It may not be as bad as you think (although the black out drunk bit is obviously not great) and then you can apologise when you go back to work for what you actually did rather than for what you may have done

Apologise in person or it might be the final chopping block for that work relationship. If you got blackout drunk, you need to live the soberity life.

Do not message anyone on FB about this.
It's very unprofessional.

Do whatever needs to be done in person.

I’ve never experienced a black out. Sadly for me, I’ve always remembered every embarrassing detail if I had a few too many (after I was raped at 17, once I turned 18 a few weeks later I started drinking and realised it numbed the pain, so I drank more and more just to cope - I don’t drink these days but remember them well). But I think if I’d woken up knowing I was that level of drunk, and couldn’t remember everything, I’d have that level of anxiety.

Finding out exactly what you did might help - it might not be as bad as you think! And if it was, then you can prepare for the conversation with management where you apologise for your behaviour and say you’ve made the decision to no longer drink at work events because of it,

Thank you everyone, I'll wait till I see them in person and hang my head in shame. It'll be OK hopefully, and if not we'll it won't be the end of the world. I've certainly learned my lesson, drinking is a no no especially at a work event

Thank you everyone, I'll wait till I see them in person and hang my head in shame. It'll be OK hopefully, and if not we'll it won't be the end of the world. I've certainly learned my lesson, drinking is a no no especially at a work event