AIBU to feel unsettled by someone holding my arm to stop me talking?

[Roseau24]

People describe me as quiet and shy. During a lunch break at a hobby activity I was sitting talking to 2 other people. I had just started saying something about my work place when another person came over and immediately started talking about her work instead. The other two made a few general comments vaguely related to what she had said. I started to say something and she suddenly held my arm quite firmly and started talking over me and bringing the conversation back to her work place.

Is this common adult behaviour? AIBU to have found it unsettling?

She’s a cunt.

I’d have HATED that. You do NOT randomly touch people unless they’re in danger.

No, that is neither common nor acceptable. She was very rude and her behaviour warranted a comment along the lines of’I beg your pardon?’

I find this is completely normal! For us quiet people that is. Im the same as you, very quiet, always had comments about how quiet I am, the sarcastic " you're the life and soul of the party you" comments, yet EVERY time I try involving myself in conversations people just talk over me, its like im invisible. I feel like shouting AND YOU WONDER WHY I STAY QUIET!
People will interrupt my conversations but if I do the same then I'M the rude one, I just dont get it.

Scaredycat259, I'm used to people talking over me but I have never had someone grab hold of my arm to restrain me.

Also, if I want to get petty, it was my conversation she intruded on in the first place since the other two peoplep and I had been chatting for about half an hour before she came over.

Yeah this would have really riled me. I would definitely have shoved her arm away

I wouldn’t find it in any way unsettling I’d find it incredibly irritating and would have shaken the hand off me, given a hard stare and carried on speaking.

She’s a prick. Next time tell her to hang on and talk over her. Dreadful behaviour

I would find it rude.
Which it was

I'd find that abhorrent. My line manager once stopped me in the corridor by grabbing my arm. I was like wtf? I'm not a child who's about to run away. My next meeting with her, I told her to please not touch me again.

I the moment, I think you could have said something about excuse me, I'm talking, but I'm extremely un confrontational (half killed me to tell my lm not to touch me again!) The person was very rude.

YANBU. She sounds like a complete arsehole. I bet the people you were with thought so too, even if they didn't say anything about it.

I'm a quiet person and people are forever talking over me, interrupting me, becoming distracted and visibly losing interest the second I open my mouth. But god forbid I don't hang on to their every word as they talk at me for an hour non-stop without letting me get a word in edgeways.

Or the overdone "YOU'RE TALKING I HAVE NEVER HEARD YOU TALK BEFORE. (When they had) WHY ARE YOU SO QUIET?"

That was more at school though. Really stops you mid convo and really rude when i was effing talking.
I never get why louder people must comment when you dont speak as much as them. It does give you a bit of a complex about it and makes you quieter cause every time you utter a word its 'YOU'RE TALKING!' Just because i am 'quiet' doesnt mean i don't speak! Just means i speak less than you.

I used to think I was shy because people always had to say 'she is shy' that i just shut up and followed their expectations of a quiet person.

Why don’t you put your hands over hers and say, ‘Hang on, Mavis. Let me finish what I was saying and then you can talk’. Yes, she’s rude, but lots of people are rude. You have to learn to manage then to get what you want, and that’s an easy win.

How fucking rude!