Accused of judging her choices?

[Forthesteps]

Mentioned to an acquaintance that DS had lost 5 stones and was pleased with his progress - bit of a way to go still but no longer obese.
"WLI?"
"No, slowly over a few years with diet and exercise. He feels more in control that way and feels it is more likely to stay off as he's changed his eating patterns" [his words - autistic, so control and patterns are important plus honestly the costs]
Apparently this is judging her for contemplating using them. Which she hadn't mentioned and isn't that big anyway. And everyone else who does.
I never mentioned her or anyone else, they can do as they please, just how he personally did it and his rationale. I'm proud of him and agree the rationale but apparently that's judging too.
AIBU to support him doing it his way?

She sounds like an absolute snowflake of a woman. You should be proud of him :-)

YANBU. She is being too sensitive. You were sharing a lovely story about your DS, she made it about her. Not ok.

I am. Because he loves to eat, always has done. It's been hard work.
But his back and knees are already thanking him.

She has made the conversation about her self when all you said was you are proud of your son and gave an example of his weight loss, which you have evey right to btw.

However, she may be insecure about her own weight or appearance and has completely missunderstood because she lacks the ability to listen properly.

Her attitude is bad and she is not the sharpest tool in the box

How did she tell you she thinks you’re judging her? It’s omitted from the word for word first half of the conversion

@Forthesteps she’s just annoyed with herself that she can’t do it this way, so she’s projecting. Ignore her stupid comments.

It was long and involved but she clearly had the hump and how dare I ? It's not a short story, just an AIBU...

But what did she say?!

how fucking dare you take the piss out of my WLI??

you haven’t said what she said to communicate you had offended her.

No swearing. Look it would take paragraphs but it was all don't judge, they are just as good/quicker, who's to say what's best, why are people snooty about injections etc etc
I was summarising: it's what you do. Not sure why it's so important that you get it all verbatim

Because it could well be the case that she just continued the conversation and didn’t accuse you of judging her at all? Maybe you’re being paranoid or chippy.

AIBU to support him doing it his way?

YABU to ask this question as I mean come on, do you really think you'd be unreasonable?

She sounds batshit from what you've written, but if this is the sort of thing you asked her, it's likely she may have picked up on you being disingenuous.

Or maybe I was there? Just a thought.

I didn't ask her, I was asking here but OK. Some people are going to assume I was somehow subliminally nasty. I wasn't, but hey. Perhaps that explains the reaction.

I've got no skin in the game here and as I say, she does sound batshit from what you've written.

It's just the question you're asking is so ridiculous.

Can you say why you think you might be unreasonable to support your autistic son in such a healthy diet and fitness regime?

What would be the benefits/reasons why you might not support him?

It's not about supporting him or not tho'.It's about the choice he made for himself being framed as anti another choice for someone else.
Which it surely isn't?
Like going for an apprenticeship isn't automatically a slur on getting a degree.

I don't understand what the issue is? Your son lost weight, he didn't use WLI. You told your friend this and that means you were judgemental about others who use WLI?

Did they expect you to lie and say he did use them, just in case it came off like you were anti the whole subject?

And how would you know your friend was 'contemplating' using them?

She sounds like a paranoid twat. Plus it's true it's certainly cheaper if you can manage to lose without them so that in itself should be commended.

Yes of course it is and I'm agreeing, so you don't need to explain it to me.

I'm asking about your question?

It’s important because you may have miss understood

lots if people are v judgy about WLI and see them as cheating and some people diet in secret to avoid judgement - i did it in secret because i hate talking about diets and weight as its such a sore topic for me

she obviously took your words or tone of pride and twisted it into a negative from you

if this is a good friendship id ring her up and clear the air

also , she may not have been upset with you but pissed off with judgement from other and may have been just venting at you , not about you, if you understand what i mean ?

She could have just said “no, he chose not to” and moved on. Why did it need an explanation, which could sound judgemental?

This. OP has basically said hes autistic so it’s really important to him it was explained in an exact detailed way. But he doesn’t actually seem to have been there so I don’t understand why OP had to do it too?

“his words - autistic, so control and patterns are important plus honestly the costs”

Yeah I guess it could be been how it came across. Though to be honest right now GLP1 is so common, I guess maybe it's almost like a bit of a badge of honour to have not needed them? And that came out in OPs explanation.

Either way the friend shouldn't have been gravely offended if no offence was meant. But I guess they should try and make up and move on.