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AIBU to expect lorry drivers to respect speed limits and distance?

134 replies

pinotnow · 04/04/2026 06:22

At least three or four times over the last few months I have had the unpleasant experience of driving through 50 mph zones on the motorway where works are taking place and there is an average speed check in operation only to have massive lorries coming up way too close and me having to change lanes to get out of their way. On all occasions I have been driving to the speed limit the same speed as everyone else and have been in the left lane and forced to move over to the overtaking lane - not sure why the lorries can't do that.

This morning I gave ds a lift into town to catch a train at 5am. Going home on the 30mph ring road with speed cameras, which does have 2 lanes going each way, the same thing happened. I was in the left lane doing 30 (maybe more like 28 as I know the speedometer isn't 100%) and suddenly a massive lorry is behind me way too close. I changed into the righthand lane and it went off in front - must have been doing at least 35mph, which is his problem.

I get that on fast roads if the speed limit goes down suddenly they can take a while to adjust their speed (I think) but on 30mph road in a built up area surely this shouldn't be happening. I'm sick of having the choice to be rear-ended by a massive lorry, change lanes when it's not necessarily safe, or get a speeding fine and points (which I have never had).

I've been driving 20 years and I'm sure this is happening more and more now. AIBU to think if your job is driving you should be better at it?

OP posts:
Badbadbunny · 04/04/2026 16:08

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 16:04

Not talking about roadworks
I'm talking about a 3 or 4 lane motorway

This thread is about road works speed restrictions!

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 16:11

Badbadbunny · 04/04/2026 16:08

This thread is about road works speed restrictions!

The op mentioned 3 different scenarios.

Conversation evolves.

Notmyreality · 04/04/2026 16:18

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 16:04

Not talking about roadworks
I'm talking about a 3 or 4 lane motorway

And even on a 3 or 4 lane motorway, if lane 1 is so crowded with lorries that you feel intimidated then move to lane 2. Keep to the left doesn’t mean squeeze in dangerously between two lorries. Drive where you feel safest. The lorries are always going to endeavour to drive at the maximum permissible speed. If that’s a 50 zone they will drive at 50. If you feel intimidated and can’t match the speed then get out the way.

Flamingojune · 04/04/2026 16:24

Imlyingandthatsthetruth · 04/04/2026 12:23

And how the fuck does that excuse shit driving?

Theyve got a point, how does that excuse terrible driving?

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 16:25

Notmyreality · 04/04/2026 16:18

And even on a 3 or 4 lane motorway, if lane 1 is so crowded with lorries that you feel intimidated then move to lane 2. Keep to the left doesn’t mean squeeze in dangerously between two lorries. Drive where you feel safest. The lorries are always going to endeavour to drive at the maximum permissible speed. If that’s a 50 zone they will drive at 50. If you feel intimidated and can’t match the speed then get out the way.

If you feel that intimidated by lorries and you drive in the middle lane, you aren't safe to drive on a motorway.

Simple.

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 16:27

Notmyreality · 04/04/2026 16:18

And even on a 3 or 4 lane motorway, if lane 1 is so crowded with lorries that you feel intimidated then move to lane 2. Keep to the left doesn’t mean squeeze in dangerously between two lorries. Drive where you feel safest. The lorries are always going to endeavour to drive at the maximum permissible speed. If that’s a 50 zone they will drive at 50. If you feel intimidated and can’t match the speed then get out the way.

If you can't match, or indeed drive faster, than a a HGV, you shouldn't be on a motorway.

Hallywally · 04/04/2026 16:40

It’s because their speedometers are more accurate and in cars they’re a few mphs slow/not reliable. If you’re intimidated by lorries, you shouldn’t be on the motorway.

DdraigGoch · 04/04/2026 16:48

LilyBunch25 · 04/04/2026 11:40

I love these people who like having a moan about lorry drivers but still expect all their crap to be next day delivered and supermarket shelves full. This is one of the worst countries to be a lorry driver. Crap facilities, barely any toilets, frozen out of services, sleeping in lay bys. Try it yourself and see how much you'll complain in the future.

Is it too much to ask for them to obey the law? Bearing in mind that you can do a lot of damage with 44 tonnes.

I've been going down the A55 at an indicated 70 and been overtaken by some of the Irish lorries. They've worked out that it's cheaper to pay the fine if the police check their tacho than it would be to miss out on that one extra load they can fit in.

Badbadbunny · 04/04/2026 18:54

Hallywally · 04/04/2026 16:40

It’s because their speedometers are more accurate and in cars they’re a few mphs slow/not reliable. If you’re intimidated by lorries, you shouldn’t be on the motorway.

There is NO place on the roads for bullying and intimidating behaviour.

Verytall · 04/04/2026 19:08

Speedometers varying by a few mph isn't justification for driving too close to the car in front. And at risk of sounding like my dad, it's a limit not a target. Driving a few mph below a temporary limit is perfectly allowable, and may be advisable depending on the conditions.

whatdoidonowffs · 04/04/2026 19:32

LilyBunch25 · 04/04/2026 11:40

I love these people who like having a moan about lorry drivers but still expect all their crap to be next day delivered and supermarket shelves full. This is one of the worst countries to be a lorry driver. Crap facilities, barely any toilets, frozen out of services, sleeping in lay bys. Try it yourself and see how much you'll complain in the future.

This

Badbadbunny · 04/04/2026 19:35

whatdoidonowffs · 04/04/2026 19:32

This

What relevance does crap toilet facilities have when discussing dangerous driving and bullying/aggressive behaviour??

tinyladybird · 04/04/2026 19:42

If they have company livery on the vehicle, report them to their employer. They are safer in an accident, you are not. They are supposed to be professional drivers. Also lorries are subject to lower speed limits on some roads but yet cruise along at the permitted speed for a car/another vehicle.

HisNibs · 04/04/2026 19:44

Badbadbunny · 04/04/2026 19:35

What relevance does crap toilet facilities have when discussing dangerous driving and bullying/aggressive behaviour??

Absolutely.
If they hate their job so much that they have to resort to dangerous driving/aggression/bullying to get through their day, maybe they should try a different job.

bignewprinz · 04/04/2026 19:51

I agree OP. So many shit lorry drivers out there - and yes, car drivers too before anyone starts frothing. I always send my dashcam footage off to the police to let them deal with it. Fuck em. Drive properly in your killing machine, or don't drive it at all.

yebba2026 · 04/04/2026 20:02

On the fence here.

I agree that being tailgated by a lorry is bloody scary - and it shouldn't happen, as if they had a brake failure the vehicle in front would be toast!

However, my understanding is that their speedometer/tacho is calibrated and they have an accurate idea of what speed they are actually going at. They are also speed limited to 56 MPH and I would imagine that they don't want to slow down unless they absolutely have to, due to the energy it takes to get the heavy load back up to speed again. The chances are that if they are "speeding" in a 50, then they aren't speeding - as cars don't have the calibration that they have. I tend to keep up with them on that basis!

I also choose to stay out of their way! And still feel very cross if they are up my arse when they can see that there is no way of me moving out of the way.

Their job is to drive and to make progress. Some of them are arseholes but a lot of them are just trying to get from A to B as swiftly and safely as possible. It's a tough one.

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 20:09

Badbadbunny · 04/04/2026 18:54

There is NO place on the roads for bullying and intimidating behaviour.

If you're that intimidated by other road users, maybe driving isn't for you.

bignewprinz · 04/04/2026 20:12

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 20:09

If you're that intimidated by other road users, maybe driving isn't for you.

Correction: if you are intimidating other road users, driving is not for you.

begonefoulclutter · 04/04/2026 20:18

It does not matter what speed the vehicle in front is doing. The vehicle behind it should be far enough back to leave the safe stopping distance at that speed, and if they want to go faster they can wait until they can overtake safely.

It doesn't matter how slowly someone is driving. There is never any excuse for tailgating. Never.

yebba2026 · 04/04/2026 20:20

begonefoulclutter · 04/04/2026 20:18

It does not matter what speed the vehicle in front is doing. The vehicle behind it should be far enough back to leave the safe stopping distance at that speed, and if they want to go faster they can wait until they can overtake safely.

It doesn't matter how slowly someone is driving. There is never any excuse for tailgating. Never.

Agree completely. Tailgating is illegal for a reason and nobody - let alone professional drivers - should be doing it.

pinotnow · 04/04/2026 20:23

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 15:44

I drive on the motorway nearly every day to go to work and the biggest issue I see is people tootling along in the middle and 3rd lane ( on a 4 lane section ) and not moving over

I will flash you out of the way, you should move over if you have chance and I am talking about 8pm at night or 7am in a morning! No excuse for it! Move back in your lane and if you can't cope with motorway driving stay off it

I see that too and agree it's very annoying. Often it''s hard to get back to the left lane for your exit as everyone is blocking the lanes and seem to be carefully spaced out to ensure they don't pass anyone on their left.

That isn't what this thread is about though and annoying as it is, I would take it over a massive vehicle being inches from the back of me and appearing to be increasing is speed while I have no space in front of me without tailgating myself and nowhere to go to on the right either.

OP posts:
pinotnow · 04/04/2026 20:29

Notmyreality · 04/04/2026 15:45

I expect this is more about your fear of “massive lorries” and your perception they are too close rather than actually being too close. When u r in the 50 average speed zone are you actually driving at 50? Do you use your cruise control? Or are you driving at a few mph below it? If so you will be pissing off anyone behind you. I regularly drive though these zones on the M6. All the Lorries do 50 and if they need to overtake they do so. Therefore I suspect its your own fears of being too close to “massive lorries” that is the real issue. For what it’s worth I don’t consider lorries massive. They are lorry sized and I’m not intimidated by them.

Good for you. What a great person you clearly are. I don't use cruise control and use the speedometer in my car. I appreciate it runs a little low but I don't know by how much exactly because it varies depending on which machines I go by so when in the left hand lane I go by the speed shown. I don't think there is anything wrong with that and I never hog middle or outer lanes. I don't care if I piss someone off by being in the lefthand lane doing 48 when it's 50. I don't think that's a massive deal and it doesn't excuse dangerous driving. I don't see it as comparable to someone who drives a steady 40 through 60-30 zones, for example, which I never do. Even that doesn't excuse dangerous tailgating though.

OP posts:
pinotnow · 04/04/2026 20:30

iamfedupwiththis · 04/04/2026 15:52

If you're driving that slow on a motorway that a HGV has to overtake you, you are the issue!

Did you read what I wrote?

OP posts:
SodOffbacktoaibu · 04/04/2026 20:34

Dogmum74 · 04/04/2026 11:32

I guarantee you are one of the ones doing about 35 mph in the 50 zone annoying the crap out of everyone

Rubbish. There's no excuse for tailgating and dangerous driving.

GreyfriarsJobbies · 04/04/2026 20:37

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 04/04/2026 10:10

Our speedometers in cars are a few mph slower than we are actually travelling, lory drivers usually have their sat navs running which shows a more accurate my mph so they aren't necessarily speeding.

Yeah I have to wonder. So many people will get to a 50mph average zone and do a little bit less than 50 according to their speedo 'just in case', which means they are probably doing more like 45 in reality. Then take into account that even average speed cameras will give you a little bit of leeway, and it all adds up to a lot of car drivers being a PITA from truckers' (and everybody else's) point of view. That doesn't excuse tailgating of course, unless you're one of those people who stays in the outside lane doing exactly the same speed as the car/truck in the left lane because 'you're doing the limit', in which case it should be legal to ram you off the road and then claim off you for any damage done to my own car's front bumper.