Is everyone my age tired?

[Nomorewine123]

I am approaching 50 and I am just so tired all the time. I’m wondering if this is a thing for everyone my age, it certainly seems to be common amongst my friends but not so much the men more the women. I can only think it’s hormones or the mental load we take on. I’ve ruled out the reversible. My bloods are normal, my weight is normal, I eat healthy, exercise and don’t drink excessively. However, I work full time in a hard job (NHS short staffed etc etc) I have teenagers who seem to need more from me than when they were toddlers, I have elderly parents and feel constant guilt if I don’t see them regularly and a dog. I literally do not stop from 7 am (sometimes earlier if I try and squeeze in an early gym session ) until 9pm. When I do stop I just want to lie down and close my eyes. Is this normal life for everyone my age ? Does it get better? I have just started HRT a few weeks ago - no miracle changes yet to my energy levels! If you are fifty and full of energy what’s the secret?

Try vitamin B complex for energy and magnesium glycinate before bed

No. I’m 50 in November and feel great. Changed my diet, go to the gym. Life is good

I think anyone with your lifestyle would be tired, regardless of age. At your age my life looked similar. 13 hour days including my commute, 5 days a week. Two teens and an elderly father and a home to run on top.
Hybrid working, my DC reaching adulthood and my father's death gave me back time. I'm able to use the time for rest, sleep, excercise and eat well and do things that rejuvenate and relax me, and I feel fantastic. I'm 56.
I've gone through menpause, but don't think that made much difference either way tbh. It was my life that was the problem, not my body or my age.

It was tough FT working when parents were elderly (both with chronic health conditions, then one coping with grief when widowed), grieving loss of a parent myself, dc were going through exam years, and peri symptoms. Nearly broke me, just empty after sorting out everyone else.

Now 57, both parents are gone 😢, dc at uni and more independent, post menopause and on HRT so getting sleep, sorting out a B12 deficincy and able to focus on me more it is better (although I would still love to have my parents back!)

I have two friends who are a bit older than me who are full of energy and vitality, fit and with relatively unlined faces.

Neither of them have ever married or had children.

If it's any consolation I'd have been exhausted doing all the things on your to-do list at twenty.

There are two words you should add to your vocabulary - the first is "no", the second is testosterone. The latter can be game changing for energy and mood but is often forgotten within hormone replacement therapy.

I’m 51. I would say I’m busy and feel I rarely get a minute (also work in the NHS) but I’m not particularly tired until bedtime. I’ve been on HRT since I was 43 and my sleep is excellent so I thinks this really helps. I also take magnesium glycinate at night and I fall asleep soundly almost the second my head hits my pillow. I’m on testosterone as part of my HRT and this maybe helps but I’ve been on it so long I’m not sure. I weight train and eat a lot of protein so perhaps all these meds and lifestyle measures help and would be worth trying. I rarely drink alcohol and if I do I sleep terribly at night and yawn all the next day.

I am thinking of testosterone but GP said to try normal HRT first and then said testosterone doesn’t really help. Otherwise I do the exercise/ strength work, high protein diet etc. I don’t think I can make any lifestyle changes except maybe the supplements mentioned above vitamin B and magnesium maybe. I have had a rare day today where although I have loads to do have let myself rest and have just wanted to spend most of it in bed - I didn’t sleep but felt so tired and lay there in silence enjoying but feeling guilty at all the things I need to do.

Me, this is me, 50 next year, just started HRT a few months ago, healthy weight, weight train 3-4 times a week, don't drink, but.... work full time (civil service customer facing so similar roles), a teenager who's autistic and a pre teen, dog, cat & hamster.

I am always exhausted 😩

I’m 48 and feel exactly the same as you, OP. I’m just so damn tired all the time. Life just feels too much and by about 8pm I’m so tired and grumpy that I don’t even want to talk to another human. I’m taking all the supplements other posters have mentioned above and I’m seeing GP about starting HRT in a couple of weeks.