He's lovely and I've known him since I was 15 - we are close in a way and always wonder if we will get together one day, but never really have.
He ha been living away for almost two years but is coming here for his sister's wedding at the weekend.
He's never met my baby but gets on well with Ds1.
He has asked to stay here for 4 nights, to 'give it a try' as we had previously talked about commitment and actually doing some normal 'dating' to see if it works.
But...me and the boys are moving house the week after, and the house is chaos - full of boxes and dismantled furniture. We are finding it hard to live in ourselves, let alone with a guest. I am looking forward to seeing him but can't believe he can be so insensitive to ask to stay when we are in the middle of this.
For a start I think it would shock the children, as nobody stays the night here and some hulking great bloke is really going to freak them out a bit or just confuse them at best. Me and him are not in a relationship - yet, anyway, and it'll take a long time to establish if he already has no idea what kids need. (security, no strange visitors etc when they are moving house)
I texted him to say, please could he stay with another friend (he has loads here) as I don't want to confuse the children and also we haven't a spare inch let alone bed. I think he wanted to get close as it were, as well - nope!! Not this week!! I am stressed to the hilt.
Anyway he said don't panic, he has organised something else. Then no more texts.
I feel pissed off that he can be so cold about it, as if I have been rude. He clearly has no idea about how difficult it would be.
I feel sad that he can't be more understanding, and really am doubting that we could ever make a go of it.