I am just so tired

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I feel like life is relentless. I only work part time but the rest of the week I have my 3 year old who is lovely but full on. I try to use my days off for housework, errands, food shop and when that’s done I try and do stuff with dd. Weekends are often taken up with older dc activities. Dh cooks and helps where he can but he works full time and most of the life admin falls on me.

I can’t relax or switch off. Except for maybe one hour in the evening when dc are all in bed. By which time I’m knackered. Even when we are at home I have constant demands for snacks and entertainment. If I ever have a day off work it’s to get something done when all I really want is to just lay in bed for a day, maybe a dog walk alone in the sun if I fancy it. I have unfinished DIY projects coming out of my ears, the house is always a mess and I just can’t get on top of anything. Dh would have the kids if I had plans to go out with friends or whatever but it’s very hard managing all together with so much different stuff going on and I don’t want to go out, I just want to hide away in peace. I feel awful but I am just mentally and physically drained.

Book a local hotel for the weekend, leave DH with the kids. Enjoy.

You sound completely knackered and burnt out. You can’t change some demands - food, get kids to school, work. But I wonder if you have some pressure on yourself that you can put down. I just think we can absorb this requirement to have a house sorted, exercise regime sorted, be eating certain food blah blah blah and sometimes we just need to strip back to we all got through the day , everyone is warm, fed and loved and that’s a big fat tick.

There is so much pressure from tv, podcasts, radio, social media. Have you ever seen a messy home in a tv programme - or even with a few paintwork piles of doom! It’s just not reality.

You can sort the DIY projects when you are old! Right now it sounds like getting the kids through the day and back into bed is enough.

are there things about you life that you enjoy , even tiny things. Could you write a list of those things. Sometimes all our brains want to see is what we feel is lacking about us or our lives. And it’s a good idea to remind ourselves that there some things that are ok.