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I got sober when I found out I was pregnant — just wanted to share My story

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Vjane1 · 01/04/2026 23:16

I don’t really know why I’m posting this but maybe someone will relate.

Before I got pregnant, I was in a really bad place. For about 6 years I was taking strong painkillers daily, drinking heavily, and using cocaine every single day. It completely took over my life. I just wanted the night to keep going — sleep didn’t matter, work didn’t matter, nothing really did.

I was in constant pain but still carried on. I’d even had surgery on my nose and still used — even the night before a general anaesthetic. My septum is basically gone now and I deal with that every day.

When I found out I was pregnant, I stopped everything. Not because I loved myself — I didn’t — but because I loved the baby.

That’s what got me through it.

Stopping was hard. Life felt boring as hell at first. I had to actually sit with myself instead of constantly escaping. But slowly things changed. My heart stopped racing all the time, I started sleeping properly, and I felt like my personality came back.

Now I’ve got my daughter and I’m sober, and I honestly can’t believe I’m here some days.

If anyone reading this is in that place — I get it. It feels impossible to get out. But if you can’t do it for yourself yet, find something you do care about and hold onto that.

Also — the people you use with aren’t your real friends. That was a big one for me.

Not really sure why I’ve written all this. Just felt like maybe someone might need to read it.

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Nevergotdivorced · 01/04/2026 23:21

Well done, it cannot have been easy.

Your daughter probably saved your life.

I hope your story inspires someone.

Vjane1 · 01/04/2026 23:25

Thank you, I really appreciate that ❤️ first time I’ve shared my story , she is nearly 1 now.
It definitely wasn’t easy but she gave me a reason to change everything.

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AutumnAllTheWay · 01/04/2026 23:27

Well done. Really well done, inspiring.

Thankyou for sharing.

Vjane1 · 01/04/2026 23:29

Thank you so much, that really means a lot ❤️

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ThisAutumnTown · 01/04/2026 23:33

Thank you so much for sharing your story!
I’m honestly so proud of you!
👏💖

Farewelltothatid · 01/04/2026 23:34

Well done OP.

You should be really proud of yourself.

I'm so pleased you have your lovely DD.

Best wishes for your future.

Random321 · 01/04/2026 23:34

Fair play, it couldn't have been easy, you should be so impressed with yourself.

I haven't no doubt that your story will help others.

I hope you've been able to love yourself too.

muggart · 01/04/2026 23:34

this is really uplifting, well done you!

i hope you don’t mind me asking but during the addiction years did you just feel ill and like crap every day? or did your body adjust? i can’t really imagine it, even a couple of glasses of wine makes me feel like shit the day after

Vjane1 · 01/04/2026 23:35

Thank you so much! I never really spoke about it before so that means a lot

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Vjane1 · 01/04/2026 23:36

Thank you ❤️ honestly it was a mix, my body definitely adjusted in a way but I was never really “well”. I think I just got used to feeling rough and running on fumes all the time, it became normal which is the scary part

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Ella31 · 02/04/2026 00:50

Well done, wishing you and your daughter a beautiful future🥰

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