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First night away from baby - tips

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Springforward01 · 01/04/2026 21:47

Hello

I have a baby girl who is 10.5 months old. Tomorrow, my mum is looking after her while me and my partner stay in a hotel. I am looking forward to quality time with dp but I keep thinking of baby not settling, sleeping or something happening.
My mum has looked after her probably around 6/7 times. For when I have done keeping in touch days, hairdressers, spa day once with friend etc. All during week when dp working and these activities, work, appointments are in the same city as my mum (my mum is an hr away, same city as my work and friends and she works twice per week and is thrilled to look after dd) But overnight feels different.
Dp got us this hotel voucher for Christmas. It was valid from 1st January until end April. I was adamant to wait until near the voucher end date to use it up but now I think that is a mistake as baby is crawling (trying to stand) and doesnt sleep through the night anymore. I know dp has done a nice thing but I have been getting angry at him for booking this hotel voucher.. I know its something nice but I just feel annoyed that theres this pressure! The hotel is lovely and we have been a few times so it is special to us (and where I think DD was conceived judging by dates!).
Anyway, have u had any overnights away from baby? How did it go and how did u feel?

Thank you
X

OP posts:
idontknow54789 · 01/04/2026 21:54

Just remember if they don’t sleep, it’s fine. It’s one night and really won’t affect anything long term. Mine have always been far clingier when I’m there and fine once away. Enjoy your time away!

Springforward01 · 01/04/2026 21:55

Thats what my mum has said... worst case she wont fall asleep but its one night and she and dd can sleep the next night 😂

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Pinkflamingo10 · 01/04/2026 22:21

Just postpone it until you feel ready. End of convo !
you won’t enjoy it if you’ve been pressured to go and are worrying about your baby.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 01/04/2026 22:22

It’ll be fine. Don’t drink too much, you don’t want to waste an undisturbed sleep on a hangover.

Easterbunnyishotandcross · 01/04/2026 22:22

Ime us dgm's have a magic touch... We had dgc from 5 months every week. He slept through with us but nobody else!. Enjoy the break op.

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