Kind of offended by ex-colleagues question?

[Rearingthestars]

So we met up for coffee and I’ve not been in my new role not very long and I’m just in training now. And she said “that’s good, so do you think you’ll be able to pick it up quicker than you did at “old work place”?

Rely should have been “ Hope so , the support , training package and help from all my colleagues is sooo much better “

In your shoes I'd be bristling at this.

However, being totally honest, were you perhaps a touch slower, or used to complain to colleagues that you found it hard etc?

Trying to think positively, do you think she might have meant 'because you already know so much from your last job'?

Did you struggle in your last role? Was there any truth to it, which just makes her really socially unaware or was it total nonsense, which makes her a “mean girl.”

I would be kind of offended too. It could have been a careless worded question made in haste too. If she makes comments like this regularly however, id be taking a rain check on the coffee meet ups!

What did you say? Yes I would be a bit peeved aswel

🤣🤣🤣 cheeky bitch

Exactly what I thought.

The experience in the old workplace would determine if I found this offensive. Was there a lack of training? Complicated, contradicting or unclear procedures? Was it normal for staff to struggle getting to grips with the role, did the ex colleague struggle getting to grips with the role herself? The comment could be more about the workplace than you as an individual.

I’d have tipped over the table and stormed out. Not unreasonable.

Well it kinda depends what you were doing, and what you are doing now

Perhaps not the most tactful

If this person was a good enough friend that I was meeting up with them, I would assume they were joking.

If not, did you take a while to pick things up at your old place?

I’d interpret this as meaning because you’ve already got experience from your previous role, you’ll find it easier to adapt to the new job.
Not that deep in any case though.

Ooooohhhhh ... someone is peeing the outline of her territory. 🤣 I hope you told her not to worry because since you are having an affair with the boss you got obviously " extra help " 😉

Some people are so delighted to find something to take offence at

U ok hun?

Rude!

OP - probably best not to meet up with her going forward as you clearly see offence in her comments