AIBU to want to move away after my partner's affair?

[TheLittleMatchGirl]

My partner has been cheating on me and as result of that, he got the other women pregnant, he confessed because the child is now here, and it’s obvious that he wants to play a role in that childs life.

Him and I, already have children together, our eldest being 11 years of age. His mother whom I have a good relationship with, has assured me that she didn’t know about this before hand and if she did, she would have told me, I believe her.

I am really not coping at the moment, due to the shock and devastation, but I WILL get to the stage where I will be able to cope by myself.

I can no longer stay in the family house, I just want to take my children and leave and start a new life, as far away as possible.

Because staying here, and having to see him is going to break me, he is already broken up our family and the children are asking questions.

I never ever thought that something like this would happen to me, and I don’t know why he has done this to us.

I read something about grief that said Do Not make any big life changing decisions in the first year after a bereavement as you need time and space for everything to settle down. I think this sounds a similar level of emotional upheaval.
This experience is a huge shock for you so take your time, get support from your loved ones, let yourself think through the practicalities. Your kids may need stability and routine more than ever plus their own friends around them.