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Who is going to pay for your state pension/ care in old age?

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itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 15:38

Apparently birth rates are falling, and this is putting future pensions (and I would imagine general tax income) in jeopardy as the population will proportionally age.

What's the solution? Should we just write off our paid for "right" to a state pension and state support for care in older age?

Does this change your view on public investment in supporting people to have children if you otherwise thought this was a personal choice and you should support/ pay for your own children?

AIBU to think that NI contributions for "pension" is essentially government mandated mis-selling and state pension will go out the window in the next few decades?

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Badbadbunny · 03/04/2026 12:42

ObelixtheGaul · 03/04/2026 12:29

I definitely had it easier. Left school in the early 90s. No minimum wage then, but I was working on the factory floor for a bottom end wage, yet managed to rent a flat on my own, and afford bills, etc. couldn't do that now on a minimum wage job. Got a 95% mortgage with my then fiance at the age of 21 with little difficulty during the stable market of 1997. House cost £56,000. A 3 bedroomed mid terrace. Paid off the mortgage over 25 years, sold it for £200,000. The chances of anyone on a not too stellar combined income being mortgage free at 51 like I am is going to be a lot lower for the generation after me. And I wasn't a lucky outlier at the time.

And during that time, I had an NHS dentist, could see my doctor on the day I booked an appointment, could have gone to uni, had I done it at aged 18 on the State's dime with no worry about paying back any loan, had a few years of married person's tax allowance before they ditched it, and when, in 1999, I finally did go back to uni as a mature student and they'd just brought in course fees and loans, the cost was negligible.

Yes, I was better off, and I'm fucking grateful. I am glad I had my appendix out when I wasn't left lying in a hospital corridor for hours, didn't have to sit in A &E because I got a doctor's appointment when I needed it and she referred me, so I went straight from the ambulance to the ward.

Yes, I know this isn't everyone's story from those times. But it's a damn sight more people's story than it will be for the next generation's 50 plus year olds.

Nail on the head. I started work in the early 80s and can identify. Easy access to the GP, quick hospital appointments, in and out of A&E within an hour or two, lots of libraries, lots of cheap FE college courses to upskill and take professional qualifications as well as O and A levels, cheap and frequent public transport. I was on a very low wage, but could still afford to rent a small flat, run a modest car, etc. Food, clothes, days out, pop concerts etc were all cheap as were pub/club nights. Roads and pavements were swept, crime was low, etc.

My first job was the Monday after I left school on the Friday, wage so low I didn't even pay NIC, for full time, started making the tea and filing and taking the post. I put myself through college to get the required O and A levels to get accepted as a student for the professional accountancy body and then put myself though the exams via a mix of self study and local college evening classes, all whilst working full time. It was readily possible back then - the opportunities were there for those who wanted to take it. Even with paying for my own courses, exam fees, etc., I still had money left over from paying rent and running a car to go out socialising, going to concerts, etc., all from earning below the NIC threshold!

Wages haven't gone up anywhere near in line with housing costs, costs of living, costs of socialising etc., over the past 2-3 decades. Over those years, adult education has virtually been eliminated, public sector seems more obsessed with looking after their staff rather than providing services to the public, state pension has been put back several years, taxes have risen massively, etc.

Things have definitely gone downhill massively between the 80s and today in virtually every way for workers. I'm not surprised at all that today's youngsters feel alienated - everything must look to be falling apart around them - I really worry for the future in lots of respects unless something is done about the way today's youngsters are being treated.

ApriloNeil2026 · 03/04/2026 12:42

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 12:40

It’s a very foolish person who chooses a house deposit over tax free pension contributions. Clearly someone who doesn’t understand compound interest.

“Not necessarily. It depends on the numbers and your time horizon. Let’s take an example:
Option 1: Prioritizing a pension

  • Contribute £5,000 per year into a pension, 7% annual growth, over 30 years.
  • With tax relief, that £5,000 becomes £6,250 annually invested.
  • Final pension pot ≈ £650,000–£700,000.

Option 2: Prioritizing a house deposit

  • Save £40,000 for a 25% deposit on a £160,000 property.
  • Take a £120,000 mortgage at 4% over 25 years.
  • After 30 years, assuming house appreciates 3% annually: property value ≈ £360,000, mortgage largely paid off. Net equity ≈ £330,000.
  • Plus, you’ve avoided paying ~£12,000/year in rent over 30 years (~£360,000 total).

So, while pensions grow faster due to tax relief and compounding, buying a house provides leverage and avoids long-term rent costs.
The optimal strategy? Contribute enough to pensions to get employer match, while saving for a deposit. You capture the best of both worlds.”

Badbadbunny · 03/04/2026 12:43

Dfdd · 03/04/2026 12:33

Again NMW is around £24.7 if you work FT?

Back when my DS started work (late 2023) NMW yielded £21.6k FT, but he was on £28k. And this wasn't even in London. And the firm underpays compared to competitors.

But he contributes a bit to his pension and his employer matches.

How much was his rent, utilities, food & clothing bills, commuting costs, etc.?

Or was he living cheap at home with you?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/04/2026 12:49

Dfdd · 03/04/2026 12:36

If you've contributed via NI to a state pension you deserve something because your NI has paid the state pension of others.

So why have you given me such a hard time? I hope nobody makes you feel how you have made me feel - it’s really shitty. It’s clear my life has been a waste and that you consider me useless. Just remember not everyone’s life turns out as perfectly as yours.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 03/04/2026 12:52

Badbadbunny · 03/04/2026 12:30

Formal qualifications are ridiculously expensive in terms of online teaching as they're now the domain on private firms charging huge fees. Long gone are the days of doing, say, professional accountancy exams teaching at the local college for £50 per exam - now you're looking at several hundred per exam, meaning thousands for the full course.

Yes, there are "cheap" or free online courses, but they're not for formal exams and are often pretty low level and whatever "certificate" you get at the end often isn't known/recognised by employers.

Depends what field it is. Something like IT doesn’t necessarily need formal qualifications, it needs practical evidence of competency.

Badbadbunny · 03/04/2026 12:53

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 12:40

It’s a very foolish person who chooses a house deposit over tax free pension contributions. Clearly someone who doesn’t understand compound interest.

Tell that to people who lost out with the Robert Maxwell pension scheme scam, or who invested in Equitable Life, or any of the other many pension scheme failures. Yes, today we have the FSCS but many lost out huge amounts before the compensation scheme came into force. And even with the FSCS, they take years to deal with failing/failed schemes meaning lots of people die or have their retirement plans severely curtailed before they get their pension payments/compensation.

I've got a client in that position at the moment. Five years since the pension scheme collapsed, he can't retire at the age he planned, as whilst the scheme "fund" is supposedly safe (and would be covered by the compensation scheme if not), it's frozen due to a protracted legal/court dispute, so he can't take the tax free lump sum, and he can't start to take the flexible pension draw down. None of that is his fault. He didn't chose a "dodgy" scheme - it was a scheme from a big well known pension firm, fully regulated, fully compliant with the Financial Services laws/rules, fully reputable, etc., but his particular fund has got tied up with irregularities/legal disputes.

Not saying that people shouldn't make their own arrangements, and I've got my own schemes, I advise clients re pension investments, etc., but NOTHING is guaranteed, and I'd generally advise pensions ALONGSIDE other investments, home ownership etc., not instead of. At least with owning your own home, you've almost guaranteed house price inflation, you're not paying rent to someone else, you're almost certainly guaranteed a roof over your head, you're "free" to have pets, children, make modifications, decorate to your preferences, etc. I'd certainly be prioritising your own home before prioritising a pension scheme, but ideally, do both, weighted towards your own home in the first instance and then start shovelling into pensions after the first few years once you've got your home and start having spare money to invest in pensions.

ObelixtheGaul · 03/04/2026 12:54

Badbadbunny · 03/04/2026 12:42

Nail on the head. I started work in the early 80s and can identify. Easy access to the GP, quick hospital appointments, in and out of A&E within an hour or two, lots of libraries, lots of cheap FE college courses to upskill and take professional qualifications as well as O and A levels, cheap and frequent public transport. I was on a very low wage, but could still afford to rent a small flat, run a modest car, etc. Food, clothes, days out, pop concerts etc were all cheap as were pub/club nights. Roads and pavements were swept, crime was low, etc.

My first job was the Monday after I left school on the Friday, wage so low I didn't even pay NIC, for full time, started making the tea and filing and taking the post. I put myself through college to get the required O and A levels to get accepted as a student for the professional accountancy body and then put myself though the exams via a mix of self study and local college evening classes, all whilst working full time. It was readily possible back then - the opportunities were there for those who wanted to take it. Even with paying for my own courses, exam fees, etc., I still had money left over from paying rent and running a car to go out socialising, going to concerts, etc., all from earning below the NIC threshold!

Wages haven't gone up anywhere near in line with housing costs, costs of living, costs of socialising etc., over the past 2-3 decades. Over those years, adult education has virtually been eliminated, public sector seems more obsessed with looking after their staff rather than providing services to the public, state pension has been put back several years, taxes have risen massively, etc.

Things have definitely gone downhill massively between the 80s and today in virtually every way for workers. I'm not surprised at all that today's youngsters feel alienated - everything must look to be falling apart around them - I really worry for the future in lots of respects unless something is done about the way today's youngsters are being treated.

You didn't need a degree to get on, either. You could work your way up much more easily. In my factory days, some of the older folk in more senior roles left school at 15 with not even a CSE to their name. My own father worked his way up from the ground floor to senior management like that. Much harder to do now.

itsadlibitum · 03/04/2026 12:55

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 12:40

It’s a very foolish person who chooses a house deposit over tax free pension contributions. Clearly someone who doesn’t understand compound interest.

cleary though someone needs a place to live.

what next, skip food and heating for a pension or you deserve to live in poverty in old age?

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ObelixtheGaul · 03/04/2026 12:59

Badbadbunny · 03/04/2026 12:53

Tell that to people who lost out with the Robert Maxwell pension scheme scam, or who invested in Equitable Life, or any of the other many pension scheme failures. Yes, today we have the FSCS but many lost out huge amounts before the compensation scheme came into force. And even with the FSCS, they take years to deal with failing/failed schemes meaning lots of people die or have their retirement plans severely curtailed before they get their pension payments/compensation.

I've got a client in that position at the moment. Five years since the pension scheme collapsed, he can't retire at the age he planned, as whilst the scheme "fund" is supposedly safe (and would be covered by the compensation scheme if not), it's frozen due to a protracted legal/court dispute, so he can't take the tax free lump sum, and he can't start to take the flexible pension draw down. None of that is his fault. He didn't chose a "dodgy" scheme - it was a scheme from a big well known pension firm, fully regulated, fully compliant with the Financial Services laws/rules, fully reputable, etc., but his particular fund has got tied up with irregularities/legal disputes.

Not saying that people shouldn't make their own arrangements, and I've got my own schemes, I advise clients re pension investments, etc., but NOTHING is guaranteed, and I'd generally advise pensions ALONGSIDE other investments, home ownership etc., not instead of. At least with owning your own home, you've almost guaranteed house price inflation, you're not paying rent to someone else, you're almost certainly guaranteed a roof over your head, you're "free" to have pets, children, make modifications, decorate to your preferences, etc. I'd certainly be prioritising your own home before prioritising a pension scheme, but ideally, do both, weighted towards your own home in the first instance and then start shovelling into pensions after the first few years once you've got your home and start having spare money to invest in pensions.

Yep, I totally agree with that. Money in a pension can go down as well as up, and there's always the possibility of collapse. You ma not even get back what you put in. Even just a savings account alongside is better than nothing.

itsadlibitum · 03/04/2026 13:01

Badbadbunny · 03/04/2026 12:53

Tell that to people who lost out with the Robert Maxwell pension scheme scam, or who invested in Equitable Life, or any of the other many pension scheme failures. Yes, today we have the FSCS but many lost out huge amounts before the compensation scheme came into force. And even with the FSCS, they take years to deal with failing/failed schemes meaning lots of people die or have their retirement plans severely curtailed before they get their pension payments/compensation.

I've got a client in that position at the moment. Five years since the pension scheme collapsed, he can't retire at the age he planned, as whilst the scheme "fund" is supposedly safe (and would be covered by the compensation scheme if not), it's frozen due to a protracted legal/court dispute, so he can't take the tax free lump sum, and he can't start to take the flexible pension draw down. None of that is his fault. He didn't chose a "dodgy" scheme - it was a scheme from a big well known pension firm, fully regulated, fully compliant with the Financial Services laws/rules, fully reputable, etc., but his particular fund has got tied up with irregularities/legal disputes.

Not saying that people shouldn't make their own arrangements, and I've got my own schemes, I advise clients re pension investments, etc., but NOTHING is guaranteed, and I'd generally advise pensions ALONGSIDE other investments, home ownership etc., not instead of. At least with owning your own home, you've almost guaranteed house price inflation, you're not paying rent to someone else, you're almost certainly guaranteed a roof over your head, you're "free" to have pets, children, make modifications, decorate to your preferences, etc. I'd certainly be prioritising your own home before prioritising a pension scheme, but ideally, do both, weighted towards your own home in the first instance and then start shovelling into pensions after the first few years once you've got your home and start having spare money to invest in pensions.

or my mum, who never saw a penny of her pension as she died of cancer at 53. We shouldn’t have to sacrifice life entirely for a pension should we?

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Lifestooshort71 · 03/04/2026 13:12

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 12:40

It’s a very foolish person who chooses a house deposit over tax free pension contributions. Clearly someone who doesn’t understand compound interest.

I disagree. Knowing you own your own property is a huge relief when you retire - at any age really.

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 13:14

itsadlibitum · 03/04/2026 12:55

cleary though someone needs a place to live.

what next, skip food and heating for a pension or you deserve to live in poverty in old age?

Don’t be ridiculous. Clearly it’s more fiscally sensible to make tax free contributions to a pension.

itsadlibitum · 03/04/2026 13:15

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 13:14

Don’t be ridiculous. Clearly it’s more fiscally sensible to make tax free contributions to a pension.

Than have a house?

fiscally/ tax free is neither here nor there if you don’t have anywhere to live.

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givemesteel · 03/04/2026 13:16

YouDriveMeCrazyButICanDoThatMyself · 03/04/2026 07:22

@givemesteel Maybe it should be linked to having children / number of children. I have three kids, at significant cost to myself, so I've done my bit to contribute to the future generation of workers.

Do you think your children cost the taxpayers nothing? I mean, antenatal care, child benefit, school meals, education, childhood vaccines, free health care etc etc. it cost the tax payer more for you to have kids than it actually costs you! And you had 3!

I don't get child benefit because I earn too much. My children are privately educated and my company provides private healthcare. My children cost the taxpayer a lot less than I am contributing, trust me.

I'm not suggesting people without children shouldn't get the state pension but if it's rationed in the future I don't think it is necessarily unreasonable to take contribution to future workforce in to account. Ie on average, my children will be working to pay for everyone's pensions. If you didn't have children you didn't contribute anything to that workforce. And yes they may have paid taxes in their working life, but so did I.

XenoBitch · 03/04/2026 13:20

"Contribution to future workforce"? 😆
Ok, so can your pension be reduced if your "contribution to the future workforce" turns out to be a murderer or pedophile?

ObelixtheGaul · 03/04/2026 13:21

ApriloNeil2026 · 03/04/2026 12:42

“Not necessarily. It depends on the numbers and your time horizon. Let’s take an example:
Option 1: Prioritizing a pension

  • Contribute £5,000 per year into a pension, 7% annual growth, over 30 years.
  • With tax relief, that £5,000 becomes £6,250 annually invested.
  • Final pension pot ≈ £650,000–£700,000.

Option 2: Prioritizing a house deposit

  • Save £40,000 for a 25% deposit on a £160,000 property.
  • Take a £120,000 mortgage at 4% over 25 years.
  • After 30 years, assuming house appreciates 3% annually: property value ≈ £360,000, mortgage largely paid off. Net equity ≈ £330,000.
  • Plus, you’ve avoided paying ~£12,000/year in rent over 30 years (~£360,000 total).

So, while pensions grow faster due to tax relief and compounding, buying a house provides leverage and avoids long-term rent costs.
The optimal strategy? Contribute enough to pensions to get employer match, while saving for a deposit. You capture the best of both worlds.”

Edited

And it's not a guarantee that the pension will grow faster either. Some people bandy about compound interest like it's a given, but ultimately, pension schemes are an investment that carry risks. The small print on reputable pension contracts state that there is no guarantee you will get back what you put in, let alone big returns. Pension predictions are just that. Predictions. Not guarantees.

An excellent post, thank you.

itsadlibitum · 03/04/2026 13:23

The contribution to future work force in a personal level is the same as making it dependent on how much tax someone paid. Should a high earner get more pension than a low one because they paid more NI? No.

But future workforce is relevant to pensions (and society). It find it bizarre to deny this and don’t really understand the reluctance to support those who do contribute to it by making it easier/ more affordable/ less detrimental.

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ObelixtheGaul · 03/04/2026 13:27

givemesteel · 03/04/2026 13:16

I don't get child benefit because I earn too much. My children are privately educated and my company provides private healthcare. My children cost the taxpayer a lot less than I am contributing, trust me.

I'm not suggesting people without children shouldn't get the state pension but if it's rationed in the future I don't think it is necessarily unreasonable to take contribution to future workforce in to account. Ie on average, my children will be working to pay for everyone's pensions. If you didn't have children you didn't contribute anything to that workforce. And yes they may have paid taxes in their working life, but so did I.

Well, actually, yes I have contributed to that workforce as a whole. Perhaps not your children, but not only have I contributed through taxes for the state education of the vast majority of children who are not in private education, in order for them to be educated to a standard that helps them become the 'future workforce', I also work with those children in my job to help them reach that standard.

So yes, I have, and am continuing to contribute to the future workforce, despite not having been able to add to it by giving birth.

Cherriesandapples1 · 03/04/2026 13:32

itsadlibitum · 03/04/2026 13:15

Than have a house?

fiscally/ tax free is neither here nor there if you don’t have anywhere to live.

I personally prioritised getting a house over starting my pension early and in some ways I'm already benefitting, my mortgage is half of what rent is now, I've only just opted back in to the work pension at 34. Yes my pension pot is non existent practically at the moment but I have 34/35 years until retirement age, I could sell the house if I wanted to at retirement, which would be a tax free pot, but I would have to pay for rent. I will be mortgage free mid 40s so could pay even more into a pension pot for 20 years while not paying rent or mortgage payments. I also understand how compound interest works. Yes I've missed out on employer contributions for a good few years, but my house value has increased substantially and if I was renting my outgoings would have increased to doubled in that time. It's no always the worst decision to prioritise a house over pension for a little while

mycatwearsahat · 03/04/2026 13:33

givemesteel · 03/04/2026 13:16

I don't get child benefit because I earn too much. My children are privately educated and my company provides private healthcare. My children cost the taxpayer a lot less than I am contributing, trust me.

I'm not suggesting people without children shouldn't get the state pension but if it's rationed in the future I don't think it is necessarily unreasonable to take contribution to future workforce in to account. Ie on average, my children will be working to pay for everyone's pensions. If you didn't have children you didn't contribute anything to that workforce. And yes they may have paid taxes in their working life, but so did I.

What if your children don’t work and live on benefits their whole lives? You won’t have contributed much to the workforce then.

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 03/04/2026 13:34

XenoBitch · 03/04/2026 13:20

"Contribution to future workforce"? 😆
Ok, so can your pension be reduced if your "contribution to the future workforce" turns out to be a murderer or pedophile?

Or simply sick or disabled? 🤔

Nothing in this life is certain or clear-cut as some would like to think...

ObelixtheGaul · 03/04/2026 13:35

itsadlibitum · 03/04/2026 13:23

The contribution to future work force in a personal level is the same as making it dependent on how much tax someone paid. Should a high earner get more pension than a low one because they paid more NI? No.

But future workforce is relevant to pensions (and society). It find it bizarre to deny this and don’t really understand the reluctance to support those who do contribute to it by making it easier/ more affordable/ less detrimental.

All those paying taxes ARE contributing to the future workforce, though. Our taxes go towards state education, nursery places, etc. it is not my fault if the government does not choose to use my tax money to further assist the future workforce.

Not only do I willingly pay for the future workforce to be educated, my taxes will hopefully also be ensuring that future workforce continues to be protected by the police, rescued by the fire services, treated in hospital. Why would anyone consider that I have not made a contribution to the future workforce because I have been unable, through no fault of my own, to add to its number? My contribution is in the money I pay to give them the best chance of becoming the future workforce. Why isn't that enough?

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 03/04/2026 13:36

ObelixtheGaul · 03/04/2026 13:35

All those paying taxes ARE contributing to the future workforce, though. Our taxes go towards state education, nursery places, etc. it is not my fault if the government does not choose to use my tax money to further assist the future workforce.

Not only do I willingly pay for the future workforce to be educated, my taxes will hopefully also be ensuring that future workforce continues to be protected by the police, rescued by the fire services, treated in hospital. Why would anyone consider that I have not made a contribution to the future workforce because I have been unable, through no fault of my own, to add to its number? My contribution is in the money I pay to give them the best chance of becoming the future workforce. Why isn't that enough?

👏 👏 👏

itsadlibitum · 03/04/2026 13:37

ObelixtheGaul · 03/04/2026 13:35

All those paying taxes ARE contributing to the future workforce, though. Our taxes go towards state education, nursery places, etc. it is not my fault if the government does not choose to use my tax money to further assist the future workforce.

Not only do I willingly pay for the future workforce to be educated, my taxes will hopefully also be ensuring that future workforce continues to be protected by the police, rescued by the fire services, treated in hospital. Why would anyone consider that I have not made a contribution to the future workforce because I have been unable, through no fault of my own, to add to its number? My contribution is in the money I pay to give them the best chance of becoming the future workforce. Why isn't that enough?

I agree with you, I disagree with the pp saying she should have had more for having children.

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eastersundaes · 03/04/2026 13:39

Pensions should be based on contributions - ie higher rate tax payers should get more
those who have financially sacrificed for decades to have the children others can’t or won’t should also get more