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Who is going to pay for your state pension/ care in old age?

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itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 15:38

Apparently birth rates are falling, and this is putting future pensions (and I would imagine general tax income) in jeopardy as the population will proportionally age.

What's the solution? Should we just write off our paid for "right" to a state pension and state support for care in older age?

Does this change your view on public investment in supporting people to have children if you otherwise thought this was a personal choice and you should support/ pay for your own children?

AIBU to think that NI contributions for "pension" is essentially government mandated mis-selling and state pension will go out the window in the next few decades?

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Itchthescratch · 02/04/2026 10:45

mycatwearsahat · 02/04/2026 10:43

It is a benefit. You can get full years on your ‘stamp’ for not even working - if you get benefits, have children etc you get a full year on your record. I have a family member who had their first child at 18 and their last at 45. She had a full NI record due to having children under a certain age for most of her life, so got a full state pension. She was a SAHM and never worked in paid employment, but it’s an example of how it’s possible.

It is a benefit in the same way Jobseekers Allowance is a benefit if you’ve paid NI for the last couple of years.

Edited

It is absolutely a benefit. You are right! I actually think this should be made clear to people alongside the fact that you aren't actually squirreling your NI into your own personal pension pot but funding current pensioners. There is absolutely no guarantee you will get anything when you reach pensionable age. It's not a saving account.

Also people should be educated that they probably haven't paid enough to fund their own state pension. NI wasn't set at a sustainable level, especially considering the shifting demographics. Baby Boomers in particular paid for a much smaller generation to get a smaller pension and now we have a top heavy pyramid with a triple lock pensioner that simply wasn't factored into the NI they paid.

LadyVioletBridgerton · 02/04/2026 10:48

It wouldn’t surprise me if one day, the only people who receive it are people on benefits. As in, people who have never contributed to it.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:03

Itchthescratch · 02/04/2026 10:31

I have to buy those things for me and my children. Families with children are more likely to experience poverty for obvious reasons. The basics cost more, you need to fund childcare and often have less flexibility when it comes to employment and finding higher paid work.

You seem unable to recognise these advantages and instead perceive yourself as someone that is somehow saving everyone else money and contributing more than everyone else. Most parents will raise children and work. This has potential double benefit for society.

It's fine to choose not to have children but it's not really fair to expect to not contribute towards the next generation when you need them as much as anyone else.

I have not been ‘privileged’ . I expect to have to pay towards the younger generations and I’m not denying that.

And It costs a lot to be single. But you seem to be under the impression that not having children means you are rolling in cash.

I can’t afford a mortgage, I can’t afford a pension. At one point I was living on cheap tinned hotdogs while working full time. But it’s okay because I realise expecting anything is clearly taking the piss.

The attitudes on this thread have been eye opening. If I retire and run out of money it’s clearly my fault and I should do the decent thing and off myself.

Point taken.

Perhaps there could be a facility set up by the younger generations to knock off anyone who is poor and childfree? It would probably be cost effective.

Differentforgirls · 02/04/2026 11:05

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:03

I have not been ‘privileged’ . I expect to have to pay towards the younger generations and I’m not denying that.

And It costs a lot to be single. But you seem to be under the impression that not having children means you are rolling in cash.

I can’t afford a mortgage, I can’t afford a pension. At one point I was living on cheap tinned hotdogs while working full time. But it’s okay because I realise expecting anything is clearly taking the piss.

The attitudes on this thread have been eye opening. If I retire and run out of money it’s clearly my fault and I should do the decent thing and off myself.

Point taken.

Perhaps there could be a facility set up by the younger generations to knock off anyone who is poor and childfree? It would probably be cost effective.

Won’t you get the state pension?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:08

Differentforgirls · 02/04/2026 11:05

Won’t you get the state pension?

Not according to this thread. I’m 55 so it’s unlikely that there will be much for me to retire on, I have a relative who hasn’t worked for the majority of her life who gets pension credit so it looks like I’m the mug for working.

Itchthescratch · 02/04/2026 11:12

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:08

Not according to this thread. I’m 55 so it’s unlikely that there will be much for me to retire on, I have a relative who hasn’t worked for the majority of her life who gets pension credit so it looks like I’m the mug for working.

Honestly I find your attitude puzzling. If the state pension goes, it will go for everyone whether they're child free or have 10 children. You are no worse off than anyone else on this particular issue. The only difference is that those with kids might get support from their children who they in turn have supported for 18 plus years. Again, you didn't have to pay to support a child so you haven't really lost out.

It's more likely that the state pension will be means tested and it sounds like you would qualify. Arguably the mugs are those who have slogged away for years in higher rate tax jobs, contributed the most and least likely to receive anything back.

Differentforgirls · 02/04/2026 11:12

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:08

Not according to this thread. I’m 55 so it’s unlikely that there will be much for me to retire on, I have a relative who hasn’t worked for the majority of her life who gets pension credit so it looks like I’m the mug for working.

Fingers crossed it doesn’t come to that.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:22

Differentforgirls · 02/04/2026 11:12

Fingers crossed it doesn’t come to that.

I have decided I don’t care. The attitudes on here have been eye opening and very depressing. I spent my life doing what I thought was right but apparently I should have millions saved and shouldn’t expect people to help me out when I get old.

So be it.

KimberleyClark · 02/04/2026 11:25

It is a benefit. You can get full years on your ‘stamp’ for not even working - if you get benefits, have children etc you get a full year on your record. I have a family member who had their first child at 18 and their last at 45. She had a full NI record due to having children under a certain age for most of her life, so got a full state pension. She was a SAHM and never worked in paid employment, but it’s an example of how it’s possible.

While I, childless, worked full time for nearly 40 years - well over the 35 years necessary to qualify for a full pension, but because I retired before state pension age had to pay extra NI to qualify for the full SP.

ByRealOtter · 02/04/2026 11:28

TheSmallAssassin · 02/04/2026 09:10

You weren't really, the pension age has gone up proportionally, so we will be spending the same proportion of our lives in retirement as previous generations, which seems fair - we have to work longer because we live longer.

The main reason that 60 was set as the retirement age for women so they could retire at the same time as their husbands, as women usually married men about 5 years older than them. I think it's right that the age has been aligned between the sexes.

When I joined the Civil Service at 18 they compulsorily retired EVERYONE at 60. It was just how things were back then. So yes, I was told I’d retire at 60.

Differentforgirls · 02/04/2026 11:31

KimberleyClark · 02/04/2026 11:25

It is a benefit. You can get full years on your ‘stamp’ for not even working - if you get benefits, have children etc you get a full year on your record. I have a family member who had their first child at 18 and their last at 45. She had a full NI record due to having children under a certain age for most of her life, so got a full state pension. She was a SAHM and never worked in paid employment, but it’s an example of how it’s possible.

While I, childless, worked full time for nearly 40 years - well over the 35 years necessary to qualify for a full pension, but because I retired before state pension age had to pay extra NI to qualify for the full SP.

But you retired early. What did you think would happen

caringcarer · 02/04/2026 11:36

Boogery · 01/04/2026 15:48

Many many moons ago when I started working my expectation was that I would retire at 60.
Like my grandma.
Like my Mum.

Then they moved the goalposts and at 58 I'm looking at 9 more years.
And I feel downright ROBBED!

Yes, I was always told women could retire at 60, Then 65 now 67. I fully expect this age to rise to 70 over next 20 years.

Cherriesandapples1 · 02/04/2026 11:37

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:08

Not according to this thread. I’m 55 so it’s unlikely that there will be much for me to retire on, I have a relative who hasn’t worked for the majority of her life who gets pension credit so it looks like I’m the mug for working.

If you're 55 now, your pretty likely to get the state pension. It's the generation below and beyond that are far more likely to lose the state pension, or have it means tested or whatever. The government don't remove these things overnight but they tend to change things like this over time and to the younger generations which are less likely to kick off, because retirement is decades away

Dfdd · 02/04/2026 11:43

Who can't "afford a pension". Like if you're single and there's no kids or any caring responsibilities then what? You can't do the small %? The grads I know earn around £30k and still put a bit away each month. Even those that live out.

Differentforgirls · 02/04/2026 11:50

Dfdd · 02/04/2026 11:43

Who can't "afford a pension". Like if you're single and there's no kids or any caring responsibilities then what? You can't do the small %? The grads I know earn around £30k and still put a bit away each month. Even those that live out.

Not everyone is a “grad”.

PerfectPairofBoots · 02/04/2026 11:53

I will be spending most of my DC pension before I am 70 as I will be retiring early, then I will live mostly off my state pension.
They won't stop it for those with no money.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:55

Dfdd · 02/04/2026 11:43

Who can't "afford a pension". Like if you're single and there's no kids or any caring responsibilities then what? You can't do the small %? The grads I know earn around £30k and still put a bit away each month. Even those that live out.

Typical MN…

30k is a lot more than I have ever earned and I didn’t go to university (ironically because I couldn’t afford it). Is that really so hard to get your head round? Do you genuinely think that every childless person is sitting on wedges of cash
and that the only expense in the world is child related. Talk about living in your own bubble.

When the compulsory pension thing came along, I was advised that I would have to put a massive contribution in for a liveable pension. I couldn’t afford that,

Why is it so hard to understand that?

Cherriesandapples1 · 02/04/2026 11:58

Dfdd · 02/04/2026 11:43

Who can't "afford a pension". Like if you're single and there's no kids or any caring responsibilities then what? You can't do the small %? The grads I know earn around £30k and still put a bit away each month. Even those that live out.

I couldn't afford to pay into my pension until this year, I have to pay student loans, housing and bills to keep a roof over my head, I live on my own so it's more expensive than living in a couple. I couldn't afford the extra £200 coming out of my pay each month until now. If I had children to care for I wouldn't be able to afford to contribute now either, luckily I'm hoping to catch up now. But there are plenty of people who can't afford to save for the future if it means not surviving now

Chigreenen · 02/04/2026 12:00

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 11:55

Typical MN…

30k is a lot more than I have ever earned and I didn’t go to university (ironically because I couldn’t afford it). Is that really so hard to get your head round? Do you genuinely think that every childless person is sitting on wedges of cash
and that the only expense in the world is child related. Talk about living in your own bubble.

When the compulsory pension thing came along, I was advised that I would have to put a massive contribution in for a liveable pension. I couldn’t afford that,

Why is it so hard to understand that?

So you put some in at least because your employer was matching it, it was tax free and you understood the benefits of compound interest though?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 12:19

Chigreenen · 02/04/2026 12:00

So you put some in at least because your employer was matching it, it was tax free and you understood the benefits of compound interest though?

Not being completely stupid, yes I understand. It would have been a drop in the ocean and it would have made very little difference to my future.

I had previously been advised by a financial adviser that the cost of a liveable pension would be prohibitive.

All I need to do now is make a Time Machine and go back in time

ClairDeLaLune · 02/04/2026 12:54

Boogery · 01/04/2026 15:48

Many many moons ago when I started working my expectation was that I would retire at 60.
Like my grandma.
Like my Mum.

Then they moved the goalposts and at 58 I'm looking at 9 more years.
And I feel downright ROBBED!

They “moved the goalposts” with the Pensions Act 1995, enacted in 1997 when you were 29, so you’ve had plenty of notice!

Ihatetomatoes · 02/04/2026 13:02

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 09:54

Is it fair for everyone who has worked hard for their entire lives and contributed towards the education, healthcare, childcare of younger generations whilst doing it to be left to die poor?

How have we saved an awful lot by not having children? I have fuck all saved because I can’t afford to have a pension because I’m paying tax.

That’s fine but they need to set up an option so we can take the burden off the state completely by choosing to die.

Children are very expensive. It follows if you don't have children fir whatever reason you'd not have that expense therefore more to pop in a pension.

Have you worked in a career or a range of roles during your working life?

ElizabethReed · 02/04/2026 13:04

ClairDeLaLune · 02/04/2026 12:54

They “moved the goalposts” with the Pensions Act 1995, enacted in 1997 when you were 29, so you’ve had plenty of notice!

Having plenty of notice as very little to soften the blow.

Itchthescratch · 02/04/2026 13:07

ElizabethReed · 02/04/2026 13:04

Having plenty of notice as very little to soften the blow.

That's life. Everyone going to university today will come out with far more debt than students that went to university when they were born. The law was changed iteratively but rights can be increased or eroded over time. The idea that you somehow thought you were promised something in your 20s that would be paid in your 60s is madness. I know the pensionable age will increase again before I retire. I don't feel robbed

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 02/04/2026 13:17

Ihatetomatoes · 02/04/2026 13:02

Children are very expensive. It follows if you don't have children fir whatever reason you'd not have that expense therefore more to pop in a pension.

Have you worked in a career or a range of roles during your working life?

I have done similar roles most of my life. I’m actually stunned that people can’t understand that others are in different financial situations. And it’s possible for someone with a single income to have enough expenses to clear them out every month,

I couldn’t even afford enough driving lessons to get to my test.

MN is a parallel universe sometimes. Do people really lack imagination to that extent?

And someone saying upthread that grads are earning £30k as if it’s peanuts 🙄