Sister diagnosed with cancer in her 20’s

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Hi everyone. Posting here for traffic as I’m really worried about my sister. To cut a long story short I have been In shock as my sister has recently been diagnosed with cancer. She is beautiful and is only in her 20’s but very self conscious and I’m really worried about how this will affect her mentally. I know that she is to undergo chemotherapy and will therefore likely lose her hair and eyebrows.

I really need everyone’s help as i want to help her through this and was wondering how to keep her confidence levels up. I’m really looking for wig suggestions that look real, well fitted and natural. Also looking for suggestions on what to do if she starts to lose her eyebrows. I have already looked into microblading but not sure about it. If anyone has any past experience into any of this I would really appreciate the help!

https://lookgoodfeelbetter.co.uk Is a brilliant charity that supports people going through treatment.

I'm sorry for what your sister is facing. I've no experience and others here have shared much more advice than I can offer.

Just on the hair issue. I've known a few women with complete alopecia, unrelated to cancer, who lose all head hair and eyebrows. They live with it just fine. One of my favourite freelance writers & columnist for The Guardian has it. She looks great & seems to have a wonderful life.

emma beddington - Google Search

i was going to suggest Look good feel better and someone has added the link

Shine cancer support are awesome too
https://shinecancersupport.org/

Cancer Care map can help find any support services you want - put your postcode in and the service you want and it will bring up what’s in your area
https://www.cancercaremap.org/

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. That's really shocking.

It's really important that you are led by her

If she hasn't asked for help with her appearance, then just don't mention any of it. She may feel very differently to how she feels in normal life and she might well be furious at anyone suggesting she thinks about it and I think I'd be like that too

I don't really understand why another post was talking about TikTok I would've thought it was obvious you wouldn't document her journey or anything that's shocked me a bit did I miss something in the post?

That yeah, hair and eyebrows, maybe she'll think about it, but it might not occur to her at all the only person I know who had cancer that young just wore scarf and I don't think she thought about any of it really

in fact, I thought there was a bit of an issue with the cold cap thing being pushed at people but I might have got that wrong

The TicTok mention was me. I recently saw a big issue when a husband was straight onto TikToc looking for support before his wife was formally diagnosed. It turned out that he heard the word cancer at her initial appointment and stopped listening, doctors are obliged to go through the possibilities when a patient attends with a lump or a set of symptoms, the husband didn’t take in the information that it was one of many possibilities. In response a friend set up a Go Fund Me and it all spiralled. They then had to return all the money and apologise when it was found to be a simple cyst.

For younger generations it is their outlet. Many post daily about anything and everything. I wasn’t suggesting that the OP was going to do this but it is really important to follow the lead of the one who has cancer. Some young people want to document their journey others really want to stay as far away from social media as possible.