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AIBU to feel uncomfortable wearing smaller clothes after losing weight?

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SunflowersInMyGarden · 01/04/2026 10:52

I’ve been on a weight loss journey and so far have lost around 14kg/2.2 stone and gone down clothing sizes. I still have a way to go and I’m doing it “naturally” with good old calorie deficit and exercise.
I struggled with weight most of life and really struggled with self confidence and would always buy bigger size shirts to kinda “cover and protect” myself.
So as I’m losing weight I can buy smaller size clothes but I just don’t feel confident in them.
And it doesn’t make sense because I’m so proud of myself for coming this far and I love being able to buy smaller size but I feel quite uncomfortable on them.
Depends on the brand, I buy now M or L tops and they fit me great, but in my head I feel like I should size up so they don’t feel so tight and close to my body! I feel like I need something more loose around me. I feel like all my tops should have an oversized feel and look to them. It’s so hard for me to accept that a bit tighter ones are ok too, they fit me great but my brain won’t allow me almost to enjoy being smaller because I’ve been bigger almost all my life.
Any words of advice how to deal with this?

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Overtheatlantic · 01/04/2026 11:08

Give yourself time to adjust and congrats on your excellent results! You might feel yourself getting more comfortable in the warmer months, wearing a smaller size at home in the garden or on holiday. I tend to try things outside my comfort zone when I’m away from home as in my mind I’m completely anonymous!

MyBrightPeer · 01/04/2026 11:10

Had this at the weekend - similar amount lost (12kg) and bought a dress that was an 18, have lost some inches and ended up having to buy some emergency fashion tape because the dress was hanging off me a bit. I’m with you, nervous to get those sizes in case I go back up.

Agix · 01/04/2026 11:16

I was wearing size 16 clothes whilst at the worst of my anorexia. I wore one properly fitting cardigan once (it was from the kids section) and couldn't stand it. In treatment they thought it was to hide my body and how thin I had gotten, but nope... I had been morbidly obese before the eating disorder developed and could not cope with wearing small clothes. I can't put my finger on it either, but I just couldnt and can't.

Ukefluke · 01/04/2026 11:37

I have lost a gigantic amount and very much enjoy my tiny clothes! I am enthusiastic on the Vinted purchases and do occasionally think "Feck ,is this for a child?" when I open the parcel. But then they fit.
I dont think that I will ever not love the novelty of going straight to the extra small rail instead of the extra large. And huffing when they dont have small sizes!
My local smallish M and S only stocks clothes down to Size 8 and generally I am after Size 6. Inconvenient but cannot deny that its an enjoyable inconvenience!

Sosaidkaye · 01/04/2026 11:41

I can’t stand clothes that are in any way tight. I always wear a size or two up no matter what size I am. It’s a sensory thing. I look smaller when I wear clothes that are fitted, but then I have to wear proper underwear and I feel self conscious.
There’s no real reason why women should feel they have to wear close that show off their shape. Men don’t, most of the time.

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