AIBU to feel uncomfortable about a friend sharing her 18 yo son's sex life?

[Gambino1726]

AIBU?

I have a friend, who is a ‘one-upper’. If you’ve been to Tenerife for your holidays, she’s been to Elevenrife sort of gal.

Anyway, the other day, our friends were comparing our teenage kids, one of my friend was discussing that her 18 year old got his first girlfriend and Miss one-upper said all gleefully “my son has a new girlfriend and they’re at it like rabbits. They keep us all up at night!”.

We were all a little taken aback by this, and frankly grossed out. Another friend said that she would ask her son to keep it down if it were her, but Miss one-upper insisted that it was perfectly normal to have sex, that they (the parents) are very relaxed, and she wasn’t going to intervene even though they have a young 13 year old who was complaining that she hears her brother and girlfriend at night and keeps her up.

I got the sense that Miss one-upper was wanting to show off her sons as some sort of skilful lover but I just thought it was a bit ick.

Yuk! Definitely nothing to be proud of!

I got the sense that Miss one-upper was wanting to show off her sons as some sort of skilful lover

It doesn’t sound like that at all, to me. She’s oversharing and it’s a breach of her son’s privacy but it sounds more like “Haha, teenagers, eh?” more than anything else.

Repulsive of her to breach his privacy. Imagine if it was a bloke talking about his daughter.

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🤮 this is appalling in a house with other young children especially

Allowing her 13 year old to listen to sexual activity in this way possibly meets the threshold of sexual abuse.
I hope you or your friends told her how inappropriate this was.

Ask her whether if it comes to it she would like to be known as gran or nan.

Yep

What an absolute weirdo. My DS has started to have his gf stay over and he knows that it would be totally disrespectful to have audible sex whilst his step dad and I are in the house. I would be fuming if they were having loud sex especially if a younger sibling could hear! She sounds like a massive dickhead. I'm sex positive and have no issue with my DS having a sex life but not where his family can hear!

Grim. Just grim. There are certain things that are completely off the table always.

Miss one upper seems to have lowered herself to ten down!!

Vulgar and poor parenting.

Awful. I have two young adult DC and my rule has always been about discretion. They would not wish to hear me having sex anymore than I wish to hear them. Funnily enough I have never heard a peep.

I'd have told her it was a bit sick that she seemed so pleased about that. Yes sex is normal but for mum to be so happy about it that she's gleefully telling her mates is not normal.

My facial reaction would have let her know what I think of this. Grim.

Well, ask her to stop if you think it contravenes his privacy, don’t just nod along and then start an internet thread to complain about it?

That's disgusting. It's the DS' private life.

Once again I ask, why do people have friends they clearly hold in contempt?