(No I'm blardy not so don't even try arguing with me....) to be annoyed at family members forgetting dc's birthday?

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Before anyone shouts PFB - I've got two dc, and it's not a pfb thing. I always make time to choose, wrap (obviously) and post things in time to dc's cousins (three of them) for their birthdays. They didn't remember ds's birthday this year (also forgot last year, remembered about three weeks later, rang, apologised, said they'd send something then didn't) It's not that ds needs any thing (got far too much as it is this year ) but it just p*sses me off that I make an effort and they don't. I'm sure I'm holding the moral high ground (blah blah) but I feel like just not bothering any more

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I'm sorry

Why should I be grateful because someone has gone out and bought a present. Surely buying a present is not done for gratitude, particularly if it's more kids' crap when the house is already overflowing. I am grateful when people care and spend time with us - I don't care at all about presents. but I do apprecaite that its well-meant so I act grateful but deep down I think oh god not more crap

I answered your question Ryobi (and for you cod) I don't give presents expecting to get something in return. It's not about the presents. It really isn't about the presents. (Hope you can understand now)It's about the thought and the effort. Oh and as I said it was ds who noticed NOT me so children do notice.

you are being unreasonable.

i dont think birthdays are important. wasnt raised that way.

i do see my neices and nephews a lot though.

You are taking it too personal though. Just because they have forgotten, it doesnt mean they dont care

Its not a case of giving to recieve.
Its just the thought that counts

In my case my PIL dont even phone on dcs birthday but will phone me to remind me it their other grandkids bday or SILs

Presants are already sent or they PIL have them and forgotton where they put them

Yet when its Dcs birthday well its a case of
OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND

Not going to make the effort anymore

I am taking it too personally - I'll agree on that! I don't think that they do care though.
Birthdays aren't THAT important I agree with that too but since they make no effort to come and visit us (we always go to them) I feel it's the one small way they could show that they do care. One farkin card a year, it's not that hard.

Moodaloop - craft kits are my nemesis in the war on crap. I do appreciate your point you just sounded a bit hard!

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Starlight - well they don't make ANY other effort so it's my only judgey yard stick.

icod - now you see I just can't muster up a flicker of interest for facial toners and moisturisers which you get very animated about. It's each to their own fish face.

True Starlight. We have a very small family (not many siblings/cousins) so I want us to be in touch but then again if it annoys me this much is it worth it? I'll talk to dh about it (they are his family)and see what he thinks.

Agree with everyone saying that some people just don't think birthdays are that mega-mega important.

I don't, but have family (ILs!) who think they are..... I do my best to call within a few days of said date, but that's the best I can do!! I will send a card around the date, possibly a little gift if I've seen something and thought of them.
Or possibly a little spontaneous gift for no reason at all sometimes, just cos I saw something they'd like.....

Could not really give two hoots who remembers and who does not. Frankly, the more people that forget my/my DSs birthday, the more it lets me off the hook!

I am with you on this DLPS.

DD2 only got one card from my entire family for her first birthday and none for DHs family at all. DD1 recieved lots of nice cards for her 1st birthday which I have kept.

Its the thought not the presents - we didnt even get any phone calls. I know she was only one and she wouldnt notice but its an indication that people where thinking of her/us. (Or in this case not thinking). As we live abroad it means a lot to get cards and news from home.

NO MISDEE!!! You really are a shit auntie!!!

am joking btw!!

lol SGK. i am honestly crap at birthdays. d just reminded me its his next week.

dh i mean lol

people differ in whether they think commemorating birthdays are important.

I happen not to . I celebrate my own kids birthdays but don't expect my brothers or sisters to do so.

I don't even know when my nephews and neices birthdays are but I love them all very much.

Life is just too busy to cram in that stufff as well.
Soulnds like you should ditch the cards and presents as you sound busy too