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To contact my neighbours landlord? Would you consider this bullying / harrasment?

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MichaelSnores9 · 31/03/2026 18:28

I moved into my house over a year ago. The neighbours were already here when I arrived. I didn’t have any problems with them until recently when I noticed they were driving over my path to get to their driveway. It’s their driveway, my path, my garden, and my driveway. The boundaries are clearly marked since they have a garage that’s right up to the boundary line. There wasn’t a fence when I moved in, and since there were no issues, I never thought to put one up.

One of the slabs at the bottom of the path has started to come loose. I don’t think they caused it, but it’s clear that it’s not meant for cars to drive over it all the time. I approached them and politely asked them to stop. At first, they denied it, but later admitted it, saying they had to shuffle their cars around, so it was just easier to cut across my path. They claimed they had always done this and never had any problems with the previous owners. I have no idea if that’s true or if they even knew about it. I explained that I wasn’t aware of this since they never asked me if it was okay when I moved in, and I mentioned that if there’s any damage, I would have to pay for it. They agreed to stop. I decided to put some plants and stones there to mark the boundary, but I noticed they had been moved a few times, so they were clearly still doing it. I didn’t feel like they could be trusted or respectful, so I decided to put up a fence instead.

So (I think out of spite) they decided to park two of their cars right in front of my house. It know it’s not illegal, just a bit annoying as my visitors have nowhere to park now, but it's a public road. The real issue is that they park on the dropped kerb, which makes it difficult for me to get in and out of my own driveway. I think they were trying to provoke me, but I just ignored them hoping they'd get fed up eventually. Around two weeks ago, they asked if they could access my property to paint the fascia boards on the side of their garage. I found it a bit strange since they had never brought it up before, and suddenly it was urgent. The only other way they could do it was by climbing onto the roof and leaning over. I didn’t want to be difficult, so I said yes, but I also asked (for the sake of being good neighbours) if they could stop parking so close to my driveway, explaining that it made it hard for me to get in and out. They agreed to stop.

They had been fine for a couple of weeks, but after they painted the garage on Saturday, they started parking their car right up to the drive again. They also moved all my stuff to paint (bins, plants, and a storage box), which I didn’t mind, but they didn’t bother to put anything back when they had finished. I had to move everything back when I got home from work. I know it’s not the end of the world, but they just don’t have any manners or respect. I didn’t say anything to them because I felt like they were just looking for a reaction. But things escalated this afternoon when I was in the garden and one of them parked outside my house again. I asked why they were parking so close to the drive again, and he said I was making their lives hard by not letting them use the path for access. He claimed that if I hadn’t stopped them, they wouldn’t be doing this. I explained that the path is mine and they shouldn’t rely on it for access. They said if I take down the fence, they will stop. What should I do?

I feel like I’m being held hostage. I know that sounds dramatic, but that’s honestly how it feels. I either let them use my property, or they’re going to make it hard for me to access my own drive. They don’t even need to park so close to my drive as there’s enough space on the road, so it’s obvious they’re just trying to pressure me into letting them use the path. They don’t seem to understand that the path isn’t theirs. What if I sell the house and the new owners put up a wall? They can’t just assume the path is their right of access, right? I’m not even asking them not to park on the road, I’m just asking them not to park so close.

I'm starting to feel like I'm being harassed and bullied into allowing them to use my property. As far as I know, they're tenants. Would it be unreasonable for me to reach out to their landlord? Would the landlord even care or take any notice? I'm not looking for them to be evicted, but maybe a chat would help. They act like they're entitled to something from me, and I'm at a loss for what to do. I've never dealt with such entitled people before.

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Theverylasttwo · 31/03/2026 18:32

I'm sure I read an earlier post about this and you were worried they'd damage the fence. I'd simply park my car wherever they're currently parking on the road. I wouldn't contact their landlord.

UnhappyHobbit · 31/03/2026 18:44

Do you have the same landlord? If not, I don't think telling them is going to work in all honesty. If it were my tenants, I would side with them seeing as they’re paying customers.

It sounds like they are bullies, you have my sympathy OP

MichaelSnores9 · 31/03/2026 18:55

Theverylasttwo · 31/03/2026 18:32

I'm sure I read an earlier post about this and you were worried they'd damage the fence. I'd simply park my car wherever they're currently parking on the road. I wouldn't contact their landlord.

Hi I’ve not posted about this before, all of this has happened in the last month.

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MichaelSnores9 · 31/03/2026 18:55

UnhappyHobbit · 31/03/2026 18:44

Do you have the same landlord? If not, I don't think telling them is going to work in all honesty. If it were my tenants, I would side with them seeing as they’re paying customers.

It sounds like they are bullies, you have my sympathy OP

Thank you. No, I own my house.

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Tableforjoan · 31/03/2026 18:57

Just keep ignoring them. Can you get a H bar panted by the council that should technically stop them parking as close.

Shadesofscarlett · 31/03/2026 18:59

i would park your car where they park theirs - block your own drive if you have to. they sound horrid.

Hallamule · 31/03/2026 19:01

I'm a landlord.

If they're doing something illegal or antisocial then you should first report to the appropriate body (police/council) and yes, let their landlord know.

If its just petty and annoying then there's Jack Shit a landlord can do about it.

MichaelSnores9 · 31/03/2026 19:10

Shadesofscarlett · 31/03/2026 18:59

i would park your car where they park theirs - block your own drive if you have to. they sound horrid.

I've done that a couple of times, but they usually get home before I do. I typically don't arrive home from work until around 6-7pm so it’s difficult 😔

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MichaelSnores9 · 31/03/2026 19:14

Hallamule · 31/03/2026 19:01

I'm a landlord.

If they're doing something illegal or antisocial then you should first report to the appropriate body (police/council) and yes, let their landlord know.

If its just petty and annoying then there's Jack Shit a landlord can do about it.

I suppose the only thing that's against the law is parking on the dropped kerb, and I doubt the police / council would care about that. It just feels like I'm being backed into a corner just so I’ll let them use the path.

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MichaelSnores9 · 31/03/2026 19:14

Tableforjoan · 31/03/2026 18:57

Just keep ignoring them. Can you get a H bar panted by the council that should technically stop them parking as close.

I will try that thank you. I’m not sure if they will take any notice though but it’s worth a shot I guess.

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Tableforjoan · 31/03/2026 19:50

MichaelSnores9 · 31/03/2026 19:14

I will try that thank you. I’m not sure if they will take any notice though but it’s worth a shot I guess.

If you can get one Every time they park over it report it via email with photos.

I have my local parking wardens email as my almost too used email these days. It works they get annoyed with the emails and the culprits get fed up of tickets / letters.

Shadesofscarlett · 31/03/2026 19:54

Eufy doorbell camera - extra camera on the drive? cheap to install and no subscription.

Hoardasurass · 31/03/2026 19:59

Take photos of their cars parking over the drop kerb and email them to parking enforcement at your local council, mine issues a fine for each date and time stamped photo which shows the licence plate and the over parking

ThreeWordUsername · 31/03/2026 20:09

I'm not sure what it has to do with the landlord? You may not mean it this way but when home owners suggest contacting neighbouring tenants' landlords it can seem like a threat to contact their mum and dad to get them properly told off. Until very recently I was a landlord and I really did not want or expect to police my tenants behaviour beyond expecting them to look after my property. My threshold for getting involved in something like this would be pretty high. If you wouldn't contact an owner's mortgage provider I'd keep the landlord out of it.

The council/parking warden might be able to help if they're blocking a dropped kerb. This is the route you should go down imo.

MichaelSnores9 · 31/03/2026 20:22

ThreeWordUsername · 31/03/2026 20:09

I'm not sure what it has to do with the landlord? You may not mean it this way but when home owners suggest contacting neighbouring tenants' landlords it can seem like a threat to contact their mum and dad to get them properly told off. Until very recently I was a landlord and I really did not want or expect to police my tenants behaviour beyond expecting them to look after my property. My threshold for getting involved in something like this would be pretty high. If you wouldn't contact an owner's mortgage provider I'd keep the landlord out of it.

The council/parking warden might be able to help if they're blocking a dropped kerb. This is the route you should go down imo.

I appreciate what you’re saying, but, they have been using my property without my permission for the past year and are now saying that they will make access to my own driveway difficult unless I allow them to continue using my path. You mentioned that I am threatening them by suggesting I might reach out to the landlord, but they have effectively done the same thing to me, just because I asked that they stop using my path…

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Hallamule · 31/03/2026 21:03

Under the new Renter's Rights Act a landlord can evict a tenant for "continued significant antisocial behaviour ". I'm just not certain that what you are describing reaches that threshold, unpleasant as it undoubtedly is. Your best bet is to focus on the illegal parking. Document it (times, dates, photos) and get in touch with your Council's parking enforcement team.

FishPie2 · 31/03/2026 21:17

Please be aware that if you ask the Council for the H marking on the road they will bill you for it and was told it would be anything from £100 to refresh it.
It depends where you live what the cost will be.

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