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AIBU to get you to put a positive spin on something really crap?

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 19:35

Can you put a positive spin on something where you feel like just giving up?

I’ll go first.

My bathroom really needs a deep clean and I was going to do it last night but I sacked it off because I was feeling lazy.

My youngest son just had a decidedly tricky shit and managed to get faeces all over the outside of the loo plus surrounding wall, bath panel and floor.

He chose the precise 10 mins I decided to use the downstairs loo to do this.

I’m so glad I didn’t deep clean last night.

Little bugger.

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66babe · 30/03/2026 19:36

Lovely

youalright · 30/03/2026 19:38

Every cloud

TrashHeap · 30/03/2026 19:38

What a shitty situation.

(I'll get me coat)

CocoJone · 30/03/2026 19:38

How old is your son? Does he have learning disabilities? How on earth does anyone manage to get shit everywhere when they’re sat on the toilet? What did he do? Shit in his hand and throw it around the bathroom?

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 19:44

CocoJone · 30/03/2026 19:38

How old is your son? Does he have learning disabilities? How on earth does anyone manage to get shit everywhere when they’re sat on the toilet? What did he do? Shit in his hand and throw it around the bathroom?

Yes. He’s 8 and profoundly autistic. He’s like a 2yo in the body of a 10 yo (he’s big for his age too).

He’s only fully toilet trained in the last 8-10 months and had a nasty impaction quite recently.

It’s a party over here.

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 19:45

TrashHeap · 30/03/2026 19:38

What a shitty situation.

(I'll get me coat)

Season 6 Nbc GIF by The Office

Very nice.

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 19:46

CocoJone · 30/03/2026 19:38

How old is your son? Does he have learning disabilities? How on earth does anyone manage to get shit everywhere when they’re sat on the toilet? What did he do? Shit in his hand and throw it around the bathroom?

In answer to your last question I think he tried to wipe himself but got a. It out of his depth.

It was a localised issue thank Christ.

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flapjackfairy · 30/03/2026 19:50

Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 19:44

Yes. He’s 8 and profoundly autistic. He’s like a 2yo in the body of a 10 yo (he’s big for his age too).

He’s only fully toilet trained in the last 8-10 months and had a nasty impaction quite recently.

It’s a party over here.

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I have 2 children with complex needs..They will never be toilet trained and the oldest who.is 20 will happily smear if he can.get to it so I get it totally.
BUT....here is the positive spin. How amazing that you managed to get him trained at such a young age ! That is a major achievement so well done to you both . Seriously you deserve a massive pat on the back.

crossroadsfan · 30/03/2026 19:50

I see your predicament, OP and I raise you an elderly mother in situ in my house, managing to spread the same stuff so that it was on my toothbrush. But hey ho, I needed a new one anyway.

Createausername1970 · 30/03/2026 19:52

crossroadsfan · 30/03/2026 19:50

I see your predicament, OP and I raise you an elderly mother in situ in my house, managing to spread the same stuff so that it was on my toothbrush. But hey ho, I needed a new one anyway.

😱Oh lordy

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 19:55

crossroadsfan · 30/03/2026 19:50

I see your predicament, OP and I raise you an elderly mother in situ in my house, managing to spread the same stuff so that it was on my toothbrush. But hey ho, I needed a new one anyway.

Oh my god!

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Mumofteenandtween · 30/03/2026 19:59

Years ago I was driving back from a hen do and needed fuel when I was nearly home.

I couldn’t be arsed.

So went home feeling slightly guilty.

A few days later discovered a puddle of fuel coming out from under the car.

Investigations showed that our fuel line had been cut (presumably to steal our fuel).

Allowing for the amount they spilt they would have got about £2 worth.

Had I filled up then as well as the coat they probably wouldn’t have been able to take most of it so our drive would have been trashed.

Laziness is its own reward!

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 20:01

@flapjackfairy

He’s usually ok but if it’s a tricky one he has no way of resolving without a ‘claw’ and if we aren’t there it’s pretty… special.

I can only imagine how much more challenging it must be with an adult child.

I honestly thought we’d never get there and had several failed attempts but last year he had a bit of a leap and got a bit more language so we persevered and wees took a week. Poos took much longer and are still not… reliable…? 🫣

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 20:02

Mumofteenandtween · 30/03/2026 19:59

Years ago I was driving back from a hen do and needed fuel when I was nearly home.

I couldn’t be arsed.

So went home feeling slightly guilty.

A few days later discovered a puddle of fuel coming out from under the car.

Investigations showed that our fuel line had been cut (presumably to steal our fuel).

Allowing for the amount they spilt they would have got about £2 worth.

Had I filled up then as well as the coat they probably wouldn’t have been able to take most of it so our drive would have been trashed.

Laziness is its own reward!

That is a definite win, for nothing other than imagining how angry the thief would’ve been

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SummerFeverVenice · 30/03/2026 20:07

Wow that’s worse than my rescue dog getting cat poo out of the litter box, perversely eating them like they were a pack of rolo sweets, and then throwing up liquid cat shit on the duvet at 4am.

I hated the duvet and secretly wanted to get a natural fibre new one, but DH was as attached to our old one as a 2yr old to his baby blanket.

I got whole new set of bedding out of it and the cat got their litter box moved to where the dog can’t access it.

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 20:11

SummerFeverVenice · 30/03/2026 20:07

Wow that’s worse than my rescue dog getting cat poo out of the litter box, perversely eating them like they were a pack of rolo sweets, and then throwing up liquid cat shit on the duvet at 4am.

I hated the duvet and secretly wanted to get a natural fibre new one, but DH was as attached to our old one as a 2yr old to his baby blanket.

I got whole new set of bedding out of it and the cat got their litter box moved to where the dog can’t access it.

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Bloody love new bedding - excellent result

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CrowsInMyGarden · 30/03/2026 22:17

My 12 year old dog needed her teeth cleaned, they were really brown despite the fact that I do brush them. I was really worried about her going under anaesthetic so I kept putting it off. She's just had a really tough time, upset tum which led to a abscess on her anal gland, which then burst. While she was recovering she felt very sorry for herself and went to hide herself away in a bush in the garden, stepped on a thorn which lodged firmly in her paw. So she had to have a general anaesthetic a few days ago to flush out the anal gland and remove the thorn. Whilst under GA the vets did a full clean on her teeth. Almost £1000 and a few days later she's doing well. Bum's good, paw's good and teeth are shiny. So pleased I hadn't taken her in to get her teeth done the week before! Another win for procrastination.

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 22:29

@CrowsInMyGarden oh that sounds very traumatic for you both but I’m glad recovery is going well. Poor little doggie.

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shellyleppard · 30/03/2026 22:33

@SummerFeverVenice dear god!!!! 😦

shellyleppard · 30/03/2026 22:35

@crossroadsfan I used to work in a nursing home. One lovely old lady used to try and post her poo down the bathroom sink. Very apologetic about the mess bless her. Would it be worth getting a travel cover for your toothbrush in case of future potential incidents

Cantpee · 30/03/2026 22:39

Vaguely toilet related. I had a caesarean on Christmas Day and the surgeon accidentally sewed through my ureter. As a result I now pee into a bag. At night I plug myself into a big bag, with a tube going from my back off the side of the bed, so DH basically never comes near me because he physically can’t.

But, I never have to get up in the night to pee!

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Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2026 23:34

@Cantpee thar sounds really awful. I’m really sorry.

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