Two terrible exes?

[TumblingRice]

My friend has connected romantically with someone I knew many many years ago. He was a nice guy, friendly and funny and I have fond memories of him.
I haven't seen him or talked to him but she tells me he has two children from two different relationships and doesn’t see either due to being kept away by the mums and by the courts. I had a little peek at his socials and he’s active in Dad Justice groups and he posts about the unfairness of the systems.
I don’t know about the world of separations and child access, but I feel concerned about my friend. Is it possible he’s a great guy and in this situation? Or does two failed relationships with two women, both of whom go to the extent of preventing contact ring alarm bells?
He hasn’t seen one kid in one year, and another in five or so years.

It certainly doesn’t paint him in a good light. I would be wary too.

Definitely dodgy as fuck. One evil ex is possible, although I'm still pretty sceptical. TWO and I'm pretty sure it's him that's the problem here. Courts don't ban visitation completely without good reason, especially not twice.

She knows he doesn't see his kids and she's still happy to be with him.

Her choice as a grown woman but I can see why you might be concerned.

my ex husband has chosen to only see his children once a year for half an hour or so, even tho he lives locally. (Becos this is all he can cope with) During the marriage he was a very hands off Dad and never did anything for the house or the children.

Yet he will tell anyone who will listen how I dont let him see the children, which has never been true Ever.

Worse still he is Not the only man who behaves like this.
It beggars belief

It’s definitely a red flag - men who go on about psycho exes are usually the problem

Just as I feared then! Thank you for the replies x

Two baby mamas would be a firm no from me regardless of the circumstances.