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TW possible talk of SA

7 replies

Wiggles2894 · 29/03/2026 22:00

Hi i just want to get it out really, i was out drinking last night and got quite drunk and a friend of mine, who i really thought i could trust gave me a lift home, he got us food and he said am i coming into eat it so i said yeah can do, when he came in he straight away put him self on me and in the moment i just froze, he is a tall and big guy so i did not want to say leave as i was worried he would get mad. i just went with it and then i went to my room and then he came in and slept with me, i can’t remember much but i woke up at 8am and to him trying again with me from behind, i just froze and pretended to be asleep still and he carried on then left. I know i shouldn’t have invited him in now but i genuinely didn’t think he was like this i feel stupid; what makes it worse is this guy is the best friend of a recent guy i was seeing so i feel even more awful like ive gone behind his back even though we aren’t in contact, i feel gross and so upset. I don’t know what ive got out of saying it on here but think i just needed to get it off my chest as i am so regretful and feel as if it’s all my fault

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MrsDutchie88 · 29/03/2026 22:03

I’m sorry

pinkstripeycat · 29/03/2026 22:04

This wasn’t your fault. You didn’t consent to what he did to you. The fact he carried on when he thought you were asleep means he knows what he did was rape as you weren’t consenting. He needs reporting to the police OP. Don’t keep this to yourself. You are not to blame.

adcde123 · 29/03/2026 22:07

You didn’t actually invite him in - you just agreed once he’d invited himself - sounds like possible coercion from the get go

Random321 · 29/03/2026 22:16

Please contact the Rape Crisis Centre for some support.

This is not your fault.

PurplePorch · 29/03/2026 22:18

Sorry as soon as I read “pretended to be asleep so he carried on and then left”

it needs to be reported - I’m so sorry

is there anyone close you can speak to about this ?

Dappy777 · 29/03/2026 22:22

Random321 · 29/03/2026 22:16

Please contact the Rape Crisis Centre for some support.

This is not your fault.

Yes, I agree.

Endofyear · 29/03/2026 22:27

Please don't blame yourself for this, you did nothing wrong. He had sex with you without your consent - that is rape.

Please contact Rape Crisis and talk to someone about what happened.

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/want-to-talk/

I'm so sorry he did that to you 😔 look after yourself lovely 💐

Want to talk?

Our 24/7 Rape & Sexual Abuse Support Line is open 24 hours a day. Call free on 0808 500 222 or find out how you can start a free online chat.

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/want-to-talk/

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