AIBU to object to a car parking on my drive without permission?

[Mimi192]

I live near the end of a very narrow dead end rural track.
A random car parked my drive, so I wasn’t able to go out and my visitors weren’t able to park up. They hadn’t bothered to knock or leave a note.
Over an hour later, it was still there, so I walked down the lane to the 2 houses at the end of track.
The car belonged to a visiting relative, who apologised, but was worried about disturbing me, so decided to leave the car on my drive instead. The house owner had recently had a bereavement, so I felt bad about complaining about using my own drive. AIBU?

You're not being unreasonable, they made a poor choice. As people in grief sometimes do I guess. But yes it was wrong to park on your driveway - does the neighbour not have a driveway or was it full? And they should have at the least left a note. Sounds like just a round of bad circumstances but no real harm done? They apologised... and then did they rectify the situation? You haven't said how it ended.

No @Mimi192 you must always be a wet lettuce and let people walk all over you

What a strange question, who on earth is going to say you're unreasonable?

That’s cheeky of them. You weren’t unreasonable in being annoyed.

Leaving a car on the drive disturbs someone more than knocking on the door!

It was the neighbour’s husband who passed away, his funeral was only 4 days ago.

They did offer to move the car and then did eventually leave.

People park on my drive all the time. If at all possible, I block them in to make life difficult for them. If not, i go into the shops/barbers to find them and tell them to move. Now. Mid haircut or no. You’d think that I would have had some trouble from such behaviour (it’s a rough area) but not once. I have that headteacher vibe going on. Though if it was a neighbour who was recently bereaved then I’d have more patience

The two things aren't connected though?
People being inconsiderate shits don't get a free pass for it due to a family bereavement.

Stop being such a doormat.

Thanks, really appreciate being called names

So they made an honest mistake? Or not?

My beloved father died five years ago. I miss him every day and still feel the pain of losing him.

And yet I have never thought that entitled me to park on someone's private drive. Not ever. Not even for a moment.

Bereavement is not an excuse to help yourself. She could have asked your permission if she was desperate and had no other options. To treat your private property as if it was hers to just take is not acceptable, even if she is recently bereaved. You don't owe a stranger anything, especially when it's causing you inconvenience and they haven't even asked if you mind.

Nah don’t feel bad, I’ve had a few close bereavements and never just parked on someones drive!

How magnanimous of them to offer to move from your property. I’d have blocked them in, then said “oh that’s my husband… we’d said my cousin Jane could park for the night on our drive and he must have thought that was hers. He’ll be back tomorrow…”

Obv not unreasonable, but what a strange reason given! I didn't want to disturb you by asking? Yet, somehow blocking you in was less inconveniencing? 🤦‍♀️

They blocked you in? Stopped you from getting your car out? I would be incandescent with rage. No excuses for that. They can park in the next road.

This reminds me of my parking, I had a car parked on my drive overnight, I was livid. A neibour told me aw it's so and so down the road, she's very poorly and her family is visiting.....er so fuck, that's got nothing to do with my drive!

What makes it's hilarious is that the same day I went to visit my dying grandma, I drove in her street and couldn't see anywhere suitable to park so I parked on the next street where there was an appropriate space, not once did it cross my mind that I should park on someone's drive because my grandma was dying, I'm baffled by the rudeness of people!

No wonder these CFs do this kind of thing when there are so many people around who are happy to be walked all over. Or perhaps it's just mumsnet.

They blocked you in to your own drive. No knock, no note (“we are at number XYZ, please let us know if you need us to move”), just parked up and left it. Even bereavement isn’t an excuse for that, it was thoughtless at best, trespass and obstruction if you want to be really technical.

A bereavement doesn't stop a car blocking things

In the circumstances I wouldn’t have been annoyed once I knew the circumstances. Provided the visitor moved once asked.

Let it go this time given the circumstances

They blocked your car in? The cheeky twat.

Is it even possible to park on someone’s actual driveway by mistake? 🤔

If someone was dying/seriously ill then I would have said fair enough as they needed to get into the building quickly.

But they don’t get to use this excuse after someone has died - in what world does grieving mean you can’t find a suitable parking spot.

If it happens again, go and knock on the door and ask them to move it.

Op did ask them to move so hopefully there won’t be a next time