AIBU to feel disappointed by DH’s low-effort birthday acknowledgement?

[Willid]

AIBU to feel a little disappointed with DHs efforts for my birthday?
Im not a child I know, but a little acknowledgement wouldn’t go amiss! A card at 3:30pm this afternoon from him and the kids with a cheque in it to “treat myself” Kids were excited for my birthday and they wanted me to have a tea party (they are only young) so had to go up to do a food shop late last night, buy my own food cake etc so they could enjoy this afternoon, prepped and cooked everything myself, washed up myself … I work extremely hard and do everything for DH and do everything in my power to help him with his work load whilst working my own job caring for the kids and keeping the house. He is very busy I just feel so un loved and so unappreciated right now. He spent time quickly with us but I burst out crying when he declared that he was going to feed the animals. He couldn’t understand why I burst out crying and said he’s trying his best! I shouldn’t have burst out crying I know I just couldn’t help it AIBU?

Is he a farmer?

Sounds very poor. It's incredibly low effort not to even get a cake when the kids wanted a tea party. An honest conversation sounds like a good idea when you're next alone. Happy Birthday. 😊

Yes we are

You are both extremely busy people. I think just a conversation between you may sort this issue out.

My aunt married a farmer (been married at least 45 years), and I don’t recall him ever leaving the farm. She attends weddings solo, goes on holiday with her adult children or siblings and I’m pretty sure she would make her own birthday cake too. If it wasn’t for her adult children she’d never leave the farm either, there’s always so much to do.

Discuss how you feel, he could put himself out at least one day of the year. You really are not asking him for too much. Think he just needs to be told.

That was my thought too, @Willid re myself … I work extremely hard and do everything for DH and do everything in my power to help him with his work load whilst working my own job caring for the kids and keeping the house
do you mean you have a job outside the home as well?!

He was a piss poor effort but why are you buying the ingredients for your own birthday tea party. He could have gone - he cooks have prepped today and he could washed up as well.

Don't blame you for crying. He is an arse for saying he is trying his best. He certainly didn't. Don't put up with it

Yes

Nah yanbu. Tell him to hurry on up feed the animals so you can enjoy a hot bubble bath while he sorts the kids out & then watch a movie together.

its really getting to me hes home now and just had a rant about his work,