DH's sister is getting married to a man that prior to the engagement, all the family thought was not great news for her. Made her dye her hair from blonde to brunette and diet to the point where she was practically anorexic, was often disparaging of her and wouldn't let her buy presents/book holidays without him checking what it was as he thought her taste questionable. MIL often said to me that it was as if he didn't like what SIL was and wanted to change her. That the relationship was going nowhere. The best she could say about him was that "he's not that bad in a one to one situation" (because he always acts like a surly t**t whenever there is a family gathering). He also seems to resent the fact that SIL has a successful career in publishing whereas he has not really been successful in the same field...they met 6 years ago when they were both just starting out and she has blossomed and he's just been treading water. Despite this SIL is not very confident in herself and is that type of personality who tries to appease people all the time, at her own expense.
Oh, and he cheated on her. She forgave him.
Anyway MIL was getting more and more worried about the eating disorder (seriously I think she is anorexic, she always refuses food and says she has already eaten, often seems totally fatigued to the point where I worry about her being safe in the car and people had started commenting on her change of appearance which has gone from healthy size 12 to size 6) and then suddenly they got engaged and MIL had totally buried it under the carpet, and has thrown herself into the whole wedding preparation excitement, convinced herself that it was just a diet to get into the dress (not so, she's had to have the dress taken in), mother of the bride outfit and the reception and cakes and blah blah blah and it seems that DH is the only one a bit concerned for SIL's well being in all this.
Don't get me wrong, I know it is SIL's business not mine, but I so was so surprised to hear they were getting married - I mean, he is just so nasty to her, they always seem to be arguing, I thought it was dead in the water.
I am annoyed with MIL for not even trying to talk to her own daughter about whether she should be going through with this - instead she is putting pressure on her about it, which church etc, (she is v. traditional catholic).
Anyway, it just seems nuts to me - MIL is such a one for worrying and worrying but then convincing herself the best course of action is not to do anything about it, and then she comes up with all these bogus reasons as to why everything is OK.
Am so annoyed with her. So we're all driving up to this wedding but I feel so annoyed with MIL, she's basking in the glow of the feel good factor of the wedding but I suspect her daughter is actually quite unhappy beneath the surface. I think MIL is a total hoypocrite especially on the whole religion thing - made a huge fuss and kicked up a stink about our civil wedding not being catholic (was in tears on the phone to DH about it) when we have been together ages and are happy together, yet she is dancing with glee when her daughter is getting hitched to a prat that treats her badly because it is a church do.