What is your midlife crisis looking like?

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Light hearted!!!

I'm such a cliche. If I was a man I'd be buying a motorbike.

So far mine has involved getting my one and only tattoo (a pretty one on my inside forearm of course).

Going from no piercings to 6 ear piercings. All in my lobes - I'm not crazy dammit! I have plans for 1-2 more to make a stacked lobe.

I've got some (work friendly!) clothing from Disturbia and Damaged Society.

All very safe but quite rebellious for me! 🤣

Less safe but good - I've suddenly found my ambition at work. After decades of bobbing along, I've suddenly found myself wanting to progress and have started working on it.

Less safe and not good - I'm starting to wonder whether I want to stay married. We're not unhappy and am I just having a general wobble or is this something I need to look seriously at? I need to consider this slightly longer and more seriously than when I decided in the hairdressers chair to go from shoulder length hair to a pixi last year!

Mine is sex n drugs n rock and roll! Peri seems to have sent me to a sexual peak - even though I've been with DH for nearly 30 years. Drugs - after years of being alcohol free by choice, I've discovered that I love psychedelics especially shrooms and participate a few times a year. Gigs - always loved live music but have been known to go to several a week.

I've also seriously got into strength training and have very defined muscles.

I'm very happy with my mid life choices.

Walked across the American wilderness....

Bought a campervan....

Stopped drinking 🤣

I'm 48, and just finishing my second glass of wine in the Premier inn bar, am away for the weekend on my own at a strong woman competition. I can't tell you how unlikely this would have seemed to me until a few years ago!!

DH brought a Porsche, I became a teacher!

I think one of us was doing a midlife crisis better than the other.

I always wanted a fast car and a Harley Davidson… I’ve somehow ended up with a camper van and a mobility scooter!

Mine was fucking great, if initially traumatic. Kicked out my alcoholic layabout husband, had a short but entertaining fling with a man 11years younger, started making good money at work and got to bring my daughter up as I wanted to.

I highly recommend it.

I've gone back to doing rock climbing which I'd stopped doing 12 years ago, and am doing a second degree in creative writing. And some body/health inprovement stuff - getting laser eye surgery, legs and armpits lasered, private body scans, cancer screenings and vaccinations.

Quit teaching.

Learned to fly (literally).

I think I need to up my midlife crisis game a bit. Basically, took a work promotion, brought a bigger house and now doing lots of gardening. Waiting for the kids to be old enough that I can leave them and go travelling.

Oh man yours are all so much better than mine 😭 I'm doing it all wrong! Mine looks like no longer wanting to socialize past 8pm, not interested in going out drinking or dancing anymore, not wanting to talk to people that much, and some internal narrative loop of doubting my emotions are valid 😭😭

Fuck sake. Why didn't I get the sex/drugs/pilot license/weight lifting version?? I feel really robbed!

When I turned 49 I started Mounjaro, lost 20kg and started going to the gym 4x a week. Chucked in my lucrative but stressful contracting job and took a 3 month sabbatical where I did sweet feck all apart from go to the gym and walk the dog, and go on a couple of holidays. I got Botox and started getting laser for thread veins and freckles. I had a personal styling session and bought loads of clothes for my new svelte figure.

I was then tempted back to work by a permanent job offer at the same company I had just left, but at least in a different role in a different department. I have now turned 50 (still struggling to accept that). I'm still going to the gym 3x a week and have kept the weight off with a maintenance dose of Mounjaro. I'm still constantly considering if I want to stay married or not. Sometimes I fantasize about leaving my teenage sons with my DH and having a very peaceful life. Maybe they could come and stay with me every other weekend. But I know that won't really happen.

All in all, pretty tame for a midlife crisis. Maybe that was just my warmup act, who knows?

Adidas originals mainly

where does one acquire the drugs?!

Also doing everything in your first paragraph. And forgetting stuff. I used to be the kind of person who was all over the details and had to pretend to be less on it that I was to seem vaguely likeable. That's no longer a problem I have!

I learnt to tow a caravan and got myself one.

Amazing 😍 can we be friends? 😂

Lost 20 kilos. Joined an Am Dram group.

Retrained in construction..

@thewalrus maybe we're not there yet?? (She says hopefully) Maybe the sex drugs and weight lifting comes next...

Took up sports, a team sport 12 years ago...and 4 years ago as my user name suggests, martial arts. I've dropped team sports as reality hit that I was too slow and constantly benched. Martial arts is very individual and competition fairly categorised. Love it.
Im looking at doing more cycling as we go into better weather.

I love all of this.

Sex drugs and weight lifting - that’s the title of someone’s autobiography!!

Mine is tattoos, retraining in a helping profession and not giving a flying fuck any more.

Among other things, I’ve just taken delivery of a harpsichord.

It’s not a motorbike or a round the world trip but I’ve wanted one since I said goodbye to the one in our school music room in 1996. (And it cost about as much.)

Considering a viol next.

I'm 38, am I due?
I fancy a new car!

I love this thread. So many strong choices, you fucking legends. I'm afraid younger women just cannot understand this concept on the whole, it really only comes with experience and age. I salute both.

I ended a long marriage. I went to Asia for several months, and a few other places. It's a cliche, but I found myself again. I did things I wanted to do, for myself. I faced anxiety and finally beat it. I found positivity, and embraced it. I started HRT, because I am worth looking after, and it will protect my future bone health/lower the risk of dementia/makes me feel more comfortable now.

I also stopped pretending that certain friendships were worth the hassle. It has to be reciprocal, I am worth more , and now I know it.

I stopped pandering to men. They aren't all shit, but sooooo many are, and the rest of them stand idly by rather than trying to change anything.

Vive la revolution 💪