to want dh to give up his favourite hobby?

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his hobby happens to be sky-diving. he keeps talking about going on a sky-diving holiday and the thought fills me with dread.

it wasn't such a big deal before ds came along (although i still didnt like it then either) but now ds is here i think dh should give it up.

he has no life insurance and even if he did i would rather have dh than insurance money.

would i be unreasonable to ask dh to give up sky-diving?

Whatever your opinion he MUST get life insurance!!

how much will he resent you for it?

Not unreasonable to ask - but agree with squeaver that insurance a must whatever his response...

I think you would be unreasonable to ask him to give up something that he loves, in fact it is the sort of thing that could be a marraige breaker in the long term. I do understand why you would want to though.

ohh, and do you want him to do it behind your back? cuz thats what my husband would do if i asked him to stop something like this.

Get him insured. But you can't make him give it up.

though I know I'd hate it too, I think yanbu. You can't ask him to give up a hobby. If you look at the statistics too, a person is more likely to be killed ont he road than sky diving.

YABU to ask him to give it up.

YANBU to insist that he gets insurance.

Don't think you should ask him to give it up.Couldn't you just arrange the insurance?

(Sounds like a Columbo plot, I know...)

If he has a passion for it, and does it with good safety sense, then, unfortunately, YABU. But you must discuss this with him, so that he understands how you feel about it, and insist that (a) he takes out life insurance (which he should have whether or not he does dangerous sports) and that (b) he makes sure that he always follows best practice and is sensible about it. No BASE jumping, for example, and always using clubs with good safety record and who follow best practice.

My DH sails and there have been moments when I wish he would not. He also used to cycle through central London everyday which used to scare me too but it is part of who he is. Males quite like taking risks and the adrenalin rush thing.

But not having life insurance when you have dependents is unacceptable - that is a priority. It's not just the skydiving - life is full of risks.

YANBU

My DH is into paragliding and does not have life insurance either so I know exactly how you feel. I have never told him to give it up as I think this would be counter-productive but he definitely feels my disapproval.... and complains about it ... a lot.

He does agree that he would not be happy if our DS (2) took it up so I guess this is the first step.

Mine does gliding, but has insurance, so it's all right if he falls out of the sky. I will be pissed off if his highly expensive parachute didn't work though......

Get him to get life insurance, and then bite your lip about his hobby. I've been doing that for years, first sailing now this; but at least he bought a glider rather than a yacht!

the thing is is that he hasn't jumped for about three years now, he will be a bit rusty at it, what if the strings on the parachute are wearing out, what if the automatic opener has stopped working, what if moths have eaten the canopy, what if the altimeter is reading wrong.

My brother is a climbing obsessive. He is amazing, but it still brings risks. At times my parents and his wife have tried to stop him, but I think when someone has such a passion you can't.

I think you can't stop him, but should regularly tell him your fears.

We all need something for ourselves to take an interest in, His happens to be sky diving - it is who he is.
Dh loves engines and fishing, it's who he is. Trouble is sky diving is more risky as a hobby!
Maybe this is what is worrying you?
I would insist on life assurance, and accident insurance too, for piece of mind.
I think all parents need insurance though.

If your dh sky dives it may be difficult to get life cover anyway as they have exclusions for people doing hazardous activities like sailing, being in the army, bungee jumping, sky diving and so on. You would need specialist cover.

You need to know he is being sensible about it.

Dh worked with someone who was into microlight aircraft, but when he got stressed at work, he stopped maintaining his plane properly and died in a crash that could have been avoided. He had no insurance for it and it has been awful for his wife trying to cope.

I would ask my dh to stop - I know he would.

But you need to do what is right for your partnership.

dh never does sky diving in england, he goes over to america, so im not sure how insurance would work in that case, does travel insurance cover it? would it give enough cover?

DP is a bit of a speed freak, he had flying lessons for xmas, his motor racing licence for his birthday.
Sorry, I think YABU, if his hobby was drink driving or something equally likely to get him killed, fine, but the chances are really small.

no, the company films you making a statement to say you are doing it at your own risk.