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Moody husband

17 replies

Creek2025 · 27/03/2026 16:43

I’m so at a cross roads been with my husband 17 years, I love him but to be honest the past 3 have been tough we had a great social life and shared so many times together we don’t have kids.

His moods have become worse over the years a friend stayed with me and brought up how he snaps at me and this has carried on the last 3 years to where most days or every few I’m being had a go at being called a pr*, c*t, kn**head he when he on one will mimic my voice.

He never wants to socialise these days when he used to be the life and soul he stopped drinking two years ago which is a fine there wasn’t an issue just wanted to stop but since he doesn’t want to do anything and looks down on people who do if we go anywhere we have to agree a time to leave and he always brings it forward so im on age.

I recently went to visit a friend for two weeks and I felt so free since I’ve been back he had been nice but I can see the snapping creeping in.

We sleep in separate beds I always say come back and he has excuses even when I hit back after two weeks he went to watch a show in his room.

if I go out he gets in a paddy but if I stay in I’m sat on my own.

i don’t know what to do would life be better on my own.

OP posts:
Rokabe · 27/03/2026 16:46

Read your op back

Now imagine a friend was telling you this. What would you say?

Parsleyforme · 27/03/2026 16:47

It doesn’t sound like he is just moody, it sounds like bullies you and calls you names. He is also antisocial and doesn’t want to leave the house. What are his good points?

TMFF · 27/03/2026 16:48

Yeah being called a prick, a cunt and a knobhead and being mimicked, is every reason to get out of this 'relationship'.

Abd80 · 27/03/2026 17:10

I’m sorry he calls you what ??!!!!
it doesn’t sound like he even likes you any more. This is so disrespectful.
I would start making plans to leave for sure.
you felt so free when you were away from him, you could feel like that all the time !

Endofyear · 27/03/2026 17:31

He's not just moody, he's abusive. In 36 years of marriage, my DH has never once called me names like that. That is NOT normal or acceptable, it is abuse.

Please get some support and leave - you deserve so much better than him 💐

Uberella · 27/03/2026 17:36

He’s abusive

He

swears at you
calls you names
mocks you
belittles you
tries to isolate you
weaponizes his moods against you
isnt being a present partner
has you tiptoeing around him

You’d be happier and safer out of this situation

Moveoverdarlin · 27/03/2026 17:36

Most women would struggle when making the monumental decision to leave their asshole husband, but that’s because the vast majority will have children. For you OP, it’s an absolute no brainer. Those couple of those weeks where you felt free? That could be your new life if you leave him.

I think my parting words to him would be ‘No, you’re the cunt. Close the door on your way out.’

nutbrownhare15 · 27/03/2026 17:43

I think you know it would

thewonderfulmrswatson · 27/03/2026 17:48

You felt free when away from him, there is your answer. Just leave the miserable fucker.

CamillaMcCauley · 27/03/2026 17:49

My ex called me a cunt once and I told him if he ever called me a name again our relationship would be over.

In all honesty I should have just ended it then as he only found more subtle ways to express his contempt for me.

I have managed to go through my entire life without calling anyone a cunt to their face, even people I really dislike, so your husband must really hate you if he just comes out with things like that straight.

You deserve a lot better.

YerMotherWasAHamster · 27/03/2026 17:52

Its sad you even have to ask whether your life would be better if you weren't married to someone who treats you like shit.

HazelMember · 27/03/2026 17:52

This is more than being moody - it is abusive.

cestlavielife · 27/03/2026 17:59

You know the answer
Tell him.
Maybe he wants to change
Maybe he does not care

JoWilkinsonsno1fan · 27/03/2026 18:15

He isn’t moody he is an abusive prick!! How dare he treat you like that!! Why on earth would you want to be in a relationship like this…, please leave!! Think about the 2 weeks you had of total freedom- it could be like that all the time!!

TrashHeap · 27/03/2026 18:23

Time to leave.

ginasevern · 27/03/2026 18:32

Yep OP. Time to leave. He isn't going to get better with age, that's a sure fact. And now he's got the taste of bullying and degrading you, there's no going back. Anyone that mimicks your voice whilst calling you a prick, cunt and knobhead is a vile abuser. Get away and enjoy your life and dignity.

Swiftie1878 · 27/03/2026 18:43

Oh my. Pack a bag. Now.

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