To pull my child out of school?

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A lad in my son’s class who comes over sometimes is always covered in red dots and scabs, he has been for as long as I can remember and I also noticed it on his older brother too.
Our son started to get the same so we took him to the doctor who diagnosed him with scabies so we treated the whole family and cautiously washed all bedding, clothes, cars and furniture and everything else was bagged up and we got rid of it eventually but it wasn’t easy and took a few attempts at treatment, the emotional affect was horrendous as we continued the cycle and it took it’s toll on all of us mentally.

Lad that’s in the class is still wandering around covered in dots.
This has been a living nightmare for us and I don’t ever want to go through this again, as far as I know the parents don’t know it’s scabies so probably haven’t treated it.
He sits in class with him every day and school coat pegs are next to each other.
I can do all I can but if the other child isn’t treated I can’t prevent re-infection and as I don’t have any proof I can’t say anything to the school about the child but after going through this and all the research I can say that the boy has what looks exactly like it and I’m pretty much without any doubt that they have the same and although I have noticed this on his friend for a long time I’d never heard of scabies so didn’t think anything about it.

I am so concerned my child is going to get it again from them if they don’t get treatment and I am terrified that we’ll face it all again.
I am thinking of changing schools but then I know my son will be devastated as the next school is in the next town.
They are going on a residential trip soon and will be sleeping in a dormitory together which I feel so uncomfortable about but it’s all paid for now and he’s looking forward to it. I am not sure if I should pull him out and lose the money.
We are a large blended family of 6 so treating us is a nightmare as there are other households where they also stay with a parent that needs to treat at the same time.
Is pulling him out of school our only option?

Why can’t you have a quiet word with the teacher?

That poor kid. Please speak to the school.

It is not acceptable op to not tell the school for whatever reason you have. Safeguarding is everyone’s responsibility

Speak to the school.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/scabies-management-advice-for-health-professionals/ukhsa-guidance-on-the-management-of-scabies-cases-and-outbreaks-in-long-term-care-facilities-and-other-closed-settings

2 or more cases is considered an outbreak. It should be reported.

I've had scabies and it was awful. Kept me awake for nights on end. The poor boy and his family. And your son. Definitely needs the school to act.

If going into school doesn’t change anything I would try to contact the school nursing service or health visitor ( I know health visitors don’t see over 5s but they could pass information to the right person). They’re much better with confidentiality than schools and you could tell them your exact concern, explaining that you want it to be treated in confidence.

It's a long time since my probationary year, and protocols may have changed, but I had a pupil in my class diagnosed with scabies; and the child was kept out of school for two weeks, during which time I understand that the deep cleaning you describe was undertaken, and when she returned, she had to be given fresh exercise books etc., as all her previous ones had been incinerated. The family was already known to social services as having possible welfare concerns, which may or may not have been relevant. My other pupils and I luckily escaped infection, but I remember the increased vigilance and precautions, and I find it hard to imagine such a casual approach from your son's school, if they are fully in the picture.