To get DH to go and pick DD up?

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DD (15) told me and DH that she was going to her friends house but I can see on life360 that for the past 2 hours she has just been wandering around a dodgy part of our town which is over 2 miles from her friends house and she hasn’t been to her friends house at all. She isn’t answering her phone or messages because both me and DH have tried to call and message her and she hasn’t answered our calls or replied to our messages. DH wants to use life360 to drive to where DD is and insist she comes home now because she isn’t at her friends house like she said and is instead in the dodgy part of the town. Are we being unreasonable?

I would

How dodgy is dodgy? And how will it go down with her? Do you think her plans fell through and she's somehow embarrassed to come back? Or do you think she's with friends there just up to 'hanging about' instead of at a house? You don't want her to go to further lengths to be secretive next time.

Nope not unreasonable now that it's dark and a school night. Might be that he coincidentally just happens to be going there for an errands though otherwise she may switch off the tracker next time or sets it to a fuzzy location. Try and collect her without ruining her (fragile) street credit. Lol. My Dad always offered lifts to my friends and sometimes even a McD just to get the lowdown on who I was with...

Yes I think he should do exactly that. She’s only 15.

I would be quite worried if a 15yo is wandering a dodgy area and not answering the phone. I'd definitely go get her! I don't care if it'd annoy her... she's still a kid.

I'd be out looking for her as soon as I saw she wasn't where she said she'd be.

DH has gone out in his car to go and get her because DD still isn’t answering her phone or messages.

Yanbu because she cannot be trusted to be honest about where she is, this puts her in potential danger. I'd go get her and she'd be having a very stern talk regarding the danger she could put herself in.

I would be tempted to go look for her. I mean she may have dropped her phone but I’d still go out and have a look. Too many weirdos out there xxx

I used to tell a half-truth as a teenager (going to see X friend but not exactly saying where we were going) but it seems if she has full-on lied then she loses the privilege of being trusted for the rest of this evening. Go pick her up!

Yeah I’d go get her. I’d try not to embarrass her. I’d probably try to drive by her and then send a message from nearby that you are there, because you are worried about her and you don’t want her to loose face with her mates so she needs to come over to the car now.

She’s only 15 so I think really you have a responsibility to pick her up.

She’s your kid, if you want to go get her then do it. I absolutely would

Yes I would. With privilege comes responsibility and she should have replied to a text or answered her phone - or better still call &
let you know her plans have changed.

Tell her the reason you came is because she wasn't answering messages and you thought she was in trouble and were ready to call the police!

Absolutely the right thing to do. If your DD doesn’t like it, it’ll teach her to pick up when you call and answer your texts. You shouldn’t be left concerned about her when she has a phone on her to keep in touch.

Shes lied and not answering her phone I would definitely be fetching her and she wouldn't be trusted to go out for a while after.

I hope she is home safe and well with you by now.

Just keep in mind that from now on when she gets up to anything she'll leave her phone behind so you can't track her. So you won't even know if she's in trouble.

Definitely the right thing to do given her age. I hope all is ok.

Yes. She is a child, has lied and is avoiding you. Definitely get her.

It’s the right thing to do but I can almost guarantee that next time she goes out and plans to do the same, she’ll turn off her location services.
she’ll probably be full of excuses why she wasn’t where she said she was and will likely blame her friend.
she’s brought it on herself not replying to messages/calls but be prepared for a tantrum when she’s home.

I had a deal with my kids - I pay for the phone and in return they ALWAYS answer my texts or the phone will be removed. As long as you're prepared to stick to your guns, this works, but they have to know that you will follow through.

And yes I would go and get her - if she doesn't answer calls or texts, she doesn't get to stay out with her friends!

I’d message her and tell her to get her arse to where her dad has gone to pick her up or you will be contacting the police and they will bring her home!

Is she okay?

Do it yourself !