No birthday trip 8yo

[moonstarsuns]

Soon to be 8yo and ppl asking if im taking him out for the day but we have spent a lot on a garden trampoline plus other little bits so is that enough?

Picnic in the garden and he can use the trampoline..

@Easterbunnyishotandcrossgood idea

This is a lovely idea.

@moonstarsuns you can bring the cake with candles out at the end of the picnic too do that he clearly knows it’s a celebratory picnic for him.

I think it’s people just making conversation especially if birthday in hols. Children often prefer a day at home.

Picnic at home is better. Kids love these. Don't think about other people. Do what suits you and your family.

You don’t need to live your life to prove something to other people.

It’s more about proving to my son

Proving what to your son?

He will be 8. He has a trampoline as a birthday present.

My youngest son (14) has probably only had 2 or 3 birthday parties in his life. And because of the day he was born, we never go out on the day either. What we do is let him choose anything he likes for dinner - whether home cooked or going out. His birthday is on a day where we are having multiple friends with their families round for a late night party in the evening - he is friends with a number of the children. So we have that as a party, but it’s not for his birthday.

He’s always been plenty happy with that. I’ve asked him if he wants a party or to do something to celebrate on a different day on the lead up yo his birthday, but he is happy spending the day with us and then loves the party in the evening.

You don’t have to take them out to make the day special. You can do something nice at home, maybe take the time to play their favourite game, or watch a tv show/movie they want to watch.

Put balloons around the garden and hang a Happy Birthday banner up maybe hang some fairy lights around the table his cake will be on.

A lot of his favorite food at the picnic.

We tend to do a favourite meal and cake and presents at home. I don’t think kids think, ooh a birthday day out! They surely have days out tailored around them most weekends so it’s not like taking your mum out for an afternoon tea, which is a genuine treat.

You’ve got him a trampoline and he doesn’t have to go to school on his birthday - he is going to be thrilled so don’t worry

Could you invite 1 or 2 school friends over for the picnic and then he has friends to bounce with on trampoline too? No extra costs involved.

I went for YABU for even querying it. Can you invite a couple of mates over to play?

What does he want to do??

Surely he can use his trampoline when ever but it's his birthday so I guess it's up to him

Have you asked him what he wants? What does he normally like to do? Is he a homebody that likes being at home or does he like days out?

There are days out you can do for free, depending on where you are in the country. We would probably do a trip to the beach or there is a lake nearby that has a great play park, or a country park with an assault course. You could always take along a friend so he has someone to play with. Or as others have suggested a picnic at home so he can play on the trampoline.
it could be a bit mean to present him with a trampoline then make him leave it at home and go out for the day.

What does he want to do though?
I mean if he specifically asks for a day out it’s for you to decide if that’s workable, affordable etc…
But you certainly don’t ‘have’ to. Most kids would be thrilled with a new trampoline, possibly a few friends round to try it out, and some party food and birthday cake.

I put you are not unreasonable.

sounds fine to me & you are the parent, not whoever is saying you need to do more.

we definitely need to ignore that peer pressure & all the insta perfect situations. You know where people spend hundreds/thousands on pictures.

pretty sure you know your son & how he would want to enjoy his day
. Don’t feel pressured to keep up with the Jones

You can easily “prove yourself” to your son by giving him your time and attention. 😀

Proving what to your son? If he wants a day out for his birthday are there no free or low cost options near you?

No its not enough. There are plenty of free places you could spend the day celebrating.

Mine had his birthday just gone, he just wanted to eat dominoes pizza & cake while playing on his new pc games. It’s fine! If your son doesn’t want to go out don’t force him

Well nobody has any idea what the birthday boy wants to do.

In the OP, it refers to "ppl asking". What people? Why are they asking? What would your child like to do?