To want DH to look after LO HIMSELF?

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DS is 12 weeks old tomorrow and I am a wee bit tired as have been doing all the baby care myself, no help from DH ever. In the last week he has realised how nice it would be for me to have a break...he decided to take LO to playgroup at church down the road for an hour on Tuesdays. Great! I then discover that this playgroup you drop off your child while you go and socialise with otherparents in other room. I know he isn't too far away, but honestly...I want him to spend time with his son! Also I have never met these people, he doesn't know them yet...When I discovered this I said no, stay with him. He said ok, I said YOU ARE NOT TO LEAVE HIM, I walked past it 15 mins after he took him there and DH was outside, alone, making a call.AIBU?

No, YANBU, DH obviously needs to take some responsibility for his son - both in helping you and also not leaving his 3 month old DS with strangers

God, no yanbu!

Totally unreasonable. Was the child in danger?

sorry, but what kind of playgroup lets parents drop 12-week-old babies off and leave the building? It sounds highly odd to me.

I have never been to a playgroup that encouraged unsupervised play, even for toddlers.

Are they insured? What would happen if one of the older children injured a baby?

and sorry to answer your question, no, YANBU.

This is completely irresponsible behaviour on the part of your DH. Could the parents not socialise in the same room?

Absolutely not. What does the 12 week old do to socialise exactly? Not like he can sit and chat while dad sits outside!!!
I would go mad at DH if he did that.

There are 5 baby places and 20 toddler places and "volunteers" take turns with the creche. I know it may seem a bit pfb of me, but 12 weeks is too small IMO to be left without a known face. Made me very sad just thinking about it.
Glad to hear I'm not being overly precious. Thank you, ladies.

Just found the application form to join said playgroup. They ask for a reference (so you can take your turn in the creche) which just asks for "someone who knows you." Umm...this place sounds odd, no?

well I wouldn't use it, but IME some places are seriously lacking safety wise anyway. I left DD1 at a creche which had been recommended to me and they seemed surprised when I asked if they would like a contact number for me before I left her - didn't use that one again!

you are NOT being unreasonable!! Me and my DH still stay with our son at playgroups and he is 22 months old, running and talking! But I would have never (and my DH would have never ever!) left our son at that age with strangers. You need to have a very stern talk with your DH.

"Stern talk" is not quite how it went down. Was furious but kept calm so that I couldn't be accused of being hormonal.

I suppose the finer points of the setup dont matter cos he's never going back there. DH swears he only left baby with one of the mums for "just a sec to get a signal on phone" and stayed with him the rest of time. Still fuming, though.