Mouldy house again

[Realjournal123]

Just arrived back to our part time home in Spain. Mould and leaks everywhere after loss of rain here. It’s happened before and I’m usually up till 3 in the morning g sorting it all out. Electrics have also been off so fridge and freezer is a mess! Tonight my partner when I asked him to help me with the fridge, and empty g/ cleaning it- all he did was hold the carrier bags handles - the bag was already in the kitchen sink if that makes sense. I said is that your contribution to this damn situation? I’m throwing rotten onions and such in to the bag and then he walks away…. Lazy arsehole. He said he had emails to send and they’re important. Same old excuse when there’s any work to be done. He never gets his hands dirty. Thinks he’s above it! So now I’ve got to put up with a week of silence from the twat! For the first time I’ve booked a cleaner to come tomorrow. He always makes me feel like he’s the victim. Should I have just got on with it? Or should he be pulling his weight?

Oh no your second home needs cleaning after it has been sat empty for a while. What a disaster LTB

Uncalled for.

What is it about people who cannot bare the thought of anyone having more than them?

How often do you visit this home? Surely you shouldn’t be leaving food in the fridge which can go off? Bin the fruit and vegetables before you go home! Sounds like you need to use a property management service to check on the house when you are not there, particularly as you know it is prone to water ingress. You will definitely get mould if rainwater gets in, but the solution seems to be that you need to repair the roof/window frames/whatever that water is getting in.

I wouldn’t be doing anything at 3 in the morning there’s nothing that can’t wait till tomorrow
leave the fridge shut and deal tomorrow

Your partner sounds horrible.

You need to get the structural issues sorted and leaks stopped to address the mould. Fix leaks, bleach out mould, dry out house, keep it well ventilated.

Never leave perishables in the fridge.

Alternatively you could dump your partner and leave him in the mouldy house on his own.

Hellon- it’s an apartment type of building with layered terraces above, so difficult to fix. I’m still cleaning now alone of course while he sleeps. Dont normally leave food in fridge, but it’s made worse as electrics went off due to storms here.

Why does he think it’s just your responsibility?

Surely it’s on both of you to pitch in equally.

Does he usually not pull his weight around the house/in your relationship?

That sounds difficult, solidarity from me. A cheap dehumidifier could help dry things out a bit.

As for partner, I'm tending more to the "abandon him there" approach.

Dont wear yourself out tonight, get some rest.

I think I had mould poisoning twice in my 20s thanks to some London properties I stayed in. I suspect it triggered a range of illnesses.

I’d definitely get it sorted, but the wider issue is your partner.

So now I’ve got to put up with a week of silence from the twat!

This is abusive.

He's a twat, why are you still with him?

you need to resolve the ongoing problems causing the mould.

next time get a cleaner to go in before you arrive so it's nice for your arrival (in your own if with friends because twat should be a thing of the past)

Lukilols- thanks. Yes you’re right. I’ve developed mild asthma with this mould. And no, he doesn’t pull his weight. He empties the dishwasher sometimes and wants a medal.

Sorry to hear that - yeah you need to take action before it affects your health further.

I was also diagnosed with asthma while in that mouldy flat and ended up with a nasty case of pneumonia that nearly took me out as well as other things.

He is moody, probably sexist and tries to control you with silence. What do you see in him?

Better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t really respect or care for you

The silent treatment is particularly nasty and uncalled for. I would say to leave it and get him to help you in the morning; I can understand why some people wouldn't want to be cleaning in the middle of the night. However, if he has a track record of not helping out and getting his hands dirty, it sounds like wouldn't help regardless of the time of day.

He's a twat, but I'd also question the value of having an apartment that requires this much work to make it habitable every time I want to use it