To ask wtf do I do and how I break out of this IMPOSSIBLE situation?!

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I left a DA relationship (marriage) last year with my young child. Ex refused to leave the house, is still living in it, while I continue to pay half the mortgage. He has stopped responding to everyone including the estate agent and conveyancers and it seems like he is not intending to move out. I am terrified we will lose the buyers, which will be expensive re paying to the estate agent and expensive for mortgage payments ongoing. I can’t afford a solicitor, paying for half the mortgage for a house I don’t live in is awfully expensive enough on a part time wage with a young child to look after.

If anyone can explain to me like I’m ten, what do I need to do? It’s also time sensitive as the sale is quite progressed to the enquiries stage :(

In addition to this, I’ve become aware I have a PCN for staying too long in a car park. The letters were delivered to my old address, which I haven’t had regular access to for safety reasons. I manage to get a family member to go and so I have the details now, but when I type in the appeals process online it says it is too late and has been passed to the recovery stage. Next step is CCJ. The coffee shop have said they can email UKPC and hopefully appeal it but what if not? It was at the start of January. There is no contact number for UKPC, all is automated, and the email address said it’s 30 days for a reply.

I am worried sick and don’t know what I need to do, and hardly have the time to deal with all this enormous life admin because my priority is caring for my child.

I guess the core facts are that we were married, divorce underway (conditional order stage currently) and will be complete end of May. I don’t have a solicitor as finances are a massive barrier and we are talking thousands of pounds

Any help massively appreciated

I’m just going to say I deliberately ignored a private parking ticket to see if it’s true that they eventually drop them. Well in my case after many letters then months of silence I did receive a court claim and the total cost had escalated so I wouldn’t recommend ignoring but appealing and getting the coffee shop etc all worth a try.

Regarding the PCN - email your local MP and cc the local council with the fine and your explanation here about fleeing DV. Additionally if you were parked somewhere and spending money you could speak to the company whos space it is and ask them to interceed

Refuge harbour or women's aid may be able to advise on the house stuff

Good look OP

It sounds as if you are going through a lot.

Not sure if citizens advice would be able to help, or point you in the direction of those that can.

Same for women's aid or any other similar organisations.

Do you have legal cover with anything else like a union. If so not sure if they could help.

Good luck.

Excactly my experience. They always pursue it in court and the cost skyrocket. Terrible advice to just ignore it.

Have you now set up a redirection service for post?

Police can get you back in

I was just about to say this. Once the divorce process has started, I believe you can charge Occupational Rent if you are being forced into paying some of the mortgage.

You can represent yourself in court. A Mackenzie friend is someone who can be your legal buddy for representing yourself in court. They have some legal knowledge

Have the police been ok or have you got Victim Support involved? He doesn't get to get away with that.

@XelaM
Who has given advice to ignore it ?