AIBU to think I haven’t got this job

[crazysocks]

I had a job interview last week, I feel desperate and I’m being quite negative .

At the end of the interview (last Tuesday) I was told that any second interviews would be this week after the first interviews were completed.

today I’ve been emailed by the agency to say that the company are still continuing with first interviews so I have to wait to see about a second interview. Dh says I’m being negative. Aibu to just assume I haven’t got it.

Id take it at face value- why would they lie? They’d just say you were unsuccessful?

No, I would take them at their word. Things can change and the interviews might be running on. But in the meantime, keep looking around. Great things happen when you’re busy - good luck!

You don't know what's happe ed behind the scenes - one of the interviewers might have been ill or otherwise engaged.

Don't get your hopes up but don't write it off yet either.

I agree with your husband.

You haven't got the job as yet because of second stage interviews so, as of right now, no, you don't have the job.

The agency have contacted you to explain why you haven't heard anything yet. You've chosen not to believe then.

There is absolutely no point in wasting time ruminating on this or being negative about it for two reasons.

1. Whether you get a second interview or not, talking about it isn't going to make any difference whatsoever and is likely to impact negatively on your ability to prepare for/perform in a second interview. It achieves nothing and is a complete waste of time.

1. It's really hard to be in your husband's position listening to endless negativity about something. He can't offer you any reassurances because he doesn't know any more than you and you don't want to hear, "Well, you might not get the job but that's OK there'll be others."

It's completely pointless. You'd he better off distracting yourself by doing something nice. It'll make no difference to the outcome but will make the waiting easier for you.

Thanks. I’m trying to distract myself but terrible at staying positive after a number of setbacks. Losing hope tbh!

The golden rule of recruitment is that it always takes longer than planned.

Don't lose hope!

Allow yourself to articulate to yourself how you feel and why you feel that way - eg I hate my current job and really need a new one. This one would be perfect - the hours, the pay and the company is really aligned with my values... do the whole 'sitting with your feelings' don't run from them or push them down.

Whatever it is. Acknowledge it and why you feel so strongly about it and then, I don't know, make a cup of tea and go and sit in the garden! Have a bath and light some candles. Have a YouTube karaoke session - whatever you do just to put yourself in a different headspace. Actually, the last idea isn't a bad one - singing uses a different part of your brain and is really good for improving MH!

Years ago, someone said to me What's for you won't pass you by and I hold on to that. I mean, it's bollocks 😉 but anything that gets you out of the constant ruminating is good.