What do I do?

[Love229]

AIBU here

I got a new phone in October 2025, I kept my old phone in a drawer as back up just incase my new one would break at some point. I haven't used it since i switched.

On saturday my boyfriend left to go home as he had his kids. A couple of hours later, I got a gmail alert to say my old phone had been switched on (still linked with old number so flagged the number). I checked my drawer for the phone and it was gone but the case left behind. I rang my boyfriend and he had it. He admitted it and told me to go collect it.i walked in on him still going through the phone. He handed it back and said he loved me. I was mad but we resolbed things.

Now today he kicked me out of his house and sent me loads of messages showing he had gone through messages from a previous relationship 2018-2020 and took pictures of everything (i didnt even know my current boyfriend at this point). Hand is now going berserk over the fact I could possibly love someone else.

This is nothing to do with him and I havent done anything wrong.

Is this some sort of test? And he expects you to bed forgiveness for ever having had a life before he came along? Fuck that for a game of abusive soldiers.

Also check the phone he gave back, that it doesn’t have a tag or tracker on it. What an utter nightmare for you.

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Nutcase. Block and move on.

He’s absolutely insane and an abusive piece of shit. You’ve done nothing wrong - but you already know that. You’re better off without this fucking arsehole.

The entire incident is the behaviour of a grade-A nutjob, but what also gets me is that he has children from one of his previous relationships, but is ranting at you about some text messages from one of yours? Double standard much?

Honestly, he’s a loon. I hope he ends up miserable and alone.

@Love229 I’m assuming you are very young?

He stole from you. You should have collected your phone and told him he is a thief and to f.off, NOT resolve it.

Okay so he has pictures. If they are not embarrassing then so what. NOW tell him to f.off.
If they are embarrassing (ie naked etc..) he will share so seek help with getting this sorted.

Absolute nut nut. I can see you've dumped him. Thank god!!!! Absolute lunatic.

Nuts!

Run like your tampon string is on fire 🏃🏻‍♀️🔥

YANBU at all.

I would report to the police - it's a crime and he's now using it to abuse you. Even if they don't do anything more than take a report, at least you have the start of it documented with them in case he escalates and blocking him doesn't do the job.

You even need to ask? another one that needs to be told to look at the red flags that are staring you in the face and beleive him when he shows you who he is

this should be on all our signatures and on bumper stickers but the message is not getting through

Block him ! He sounds very immature

I did try to break up with him and leave when I went to get my phone on saturday. I packed my stuff and went to leave but he made a scene infront of his children kept playing dumb asking why i was leaving and ruining a nice weekend he had planned for no reason. I calmly stated what he had done and why i was leaving him. I eventually agreed to stay for his kids sake but as soon as they left his attitude slowly changed into this.

I will try and make some sort of contact with the police today so I can get some advice.

Definitely ask the police for the safest way you can leave this man as he sounds like the type to escalate into violence, even if that violence only manifests as throwing things or slamming doors.

Ask for Claire's Law too. Thank goodness you don't live together!

He sounds dangerous. Are you away from him now?

You have had a very lucky escape from a nasty jealous narcissistic arsehole. Breathe a huge sigh of relief and block him on every level.

Men these days got some guts. Block him immediately and get far away from ASAP.

You haven't done anything wrong. He has done you a favour though by showing his true colours. Block him and move on. He sounds dangerous.

Stay safe= stay far away from him and tell EVERYONE about his behaviour so he can't start spreading lies to your entourage. Def make a report to the police and tell them you feel that your life is in danger. Don't want to scare you but his behaviour indicates that he's a nut job and potentially dangerous. Might want to tell ex bf as well if he knows how to get in touch with him.