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AIBU to tell my in-laws about my husband’s ADHD diagnosis?

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Adviceplease00 · 23/03/2026 17:31

I am a long time lurker. I have name changed for this as I'm looking for advice please as I don't know what to do and ideally I don't want to be outed or do the wrong thing.

Over the past year I have helped my DH with his mental health, I have helped him get Dr's appointments and helping him request medication and/or upped doses of medication for his mental health. On top of helping him with his mental health, I helped him contact the Dr's regarding a right to choose referral for ADHD and ASD. He's had his ADHD assessment and has been diagnosed with ADHD. We're waiting results on his ASD assessment.

He hasn't told his parents and has decided against informing them as his response was they wouldn't understand as they're 'from that era that doesn't think it's real'. I'm on the fence as I feel he needs support from his parents as well and not just receiving support from myself. I feel his parents wouldn't not believe him and his diagnosis. I believe they would want to know to support him.

Would I be unreasonable to tell them? Please be kind as I was very much so in two minds on posting, I don't have many friends or anyone I can speak to about it really.

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KhargIsland · 11/04/2026 07:21

What’s in this relationship for you OP, you seem to be carrying everything single handedly.
Is your husband ever going to work?

Adviceplease00 · 23/04/2026 19:49

KhargIsland · 11/04/2026 07:21

What’s in this relationship for you OP, you seem to be carrying everything single handedly.
Is your husband ever going to work?

Me personally don't think he will. I don't see much changing but who knows.

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